I just want to fit in and make friends, help?

Question

I just moved from a little po dunk (if you don't know what that means you've obviously never been there but it basically means a small town with no diversity and lots of farms, lol) town in Minnesota out to California which is so much bigger and different. I also just transferred from a retail job in Minn to one out in Cali and the one I transferred to out here has a rep for being "ghetto." And please do not go crazy at that comment I am not trying to sound racist at all, I realize that we are all the same in spirit, but obviously people act differently in different areas and the store manager herself told me that it's ghetto and sort of in a bad neighborhood. I am the whitest white girl there is and have been sheltered most of my life with not much diversity. Don't get me wrong i am totally excited and think it will be a great experience for me, but I just want some advice on maybe how to act, how to make friends, what to do, what not to do, that sort of thing. And please don't just say "don't mess with anyone" I want specifics, like what you mean by that. I am a nice girl, with the best of intentions, and I just want to be safe but also fit in.

Answer 1

1st your clothing has to be HOTT! (it has to look really nice, like WOWISH!) right now skinny leg jeans are in, and shirts with stuff on it(not plain shirts). make sure you have really nice sneakers. Look on the internet, to find cool and easy hair styles that you can do. however you might have to wake up a little earlier to do some, but its okay. this is optional were really nice belts, (not plain ones, but this is optional) dont mess with anyone, because you deffinently dont want problems in the "ghetto" lmao (i'm spanish so i deffinently know)<--dont take offensive your going to have people hating on you, but that is just because they are jealous. and ABSOLOUTELY  DONT  act cocky, because you will get beat up. GOOD LUCK, and let me know how everything goes=]

Answer 2

Lucy,

The best advice that I could give you would to be yourself.  I as well live in a neighbourhood being the only white person, at first I totaly felt out of place but now I feel that I just blend in.  At first you will feel outta place but honestly don't worry about that.  People will be able to tell that you are not racist just by your eagerness to learn about others cultures.  I wouldn't say that there are things that you shouldn't do or say, just remember that you are the new person on the block and you need to gain respect from the people that have been there forever.  Be respectful would be my number one suggestion to you.  Make sure not to look at people differently because the colour of the persons skin.  

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel. I have never fit in with the kids around here and I have lived in the same place for 11 years! I only have 1 or two friends. So I can sympathize. If you are 'religious' then pray about it. If not.............just wait for an opportunity. It will come and you will hit it off with someone. Just be friendly but not too friendly, just let it come. If you are public schooled and there is someone sitting alone, go sit with that someone. I hope this helps!

Answer 4

ok add me

send me a message saying

whats your fav music

your hobbies

and how you dress and ill help you

Answer 5

Just act like you normally would.

Answer 6

be frindly, talk to unteresting people that are as nice as u are, youl make friends

its imposiblle not to make friends, if u try to make friends

Answer 7

I wonder which part of California you moved to. I saw be yourself and that's the best person you can be. If people don't like you for you, that's their own problem not yours. Trust me, will like you for who you are no matter where you move to. But trust, here in Cali, there will be a lot of people who will look down to you and hate you but don't give in to that.

Answer 8

okay well, i'm not saying don't be nice to people, but why would you want to be nice to someone who looks like they are on america's most wanted list. not all people who walk into ghetto stores are ghetto, but if they come in wearing ghetto clothes and acting ghetto chances are they are ghetto, and not good people to hang around, so maybe you wouldn't want to be there friend, but hey give people a chance.

Answer 9

Well not everyone is California is ghetto, haha. the most ghetto place I can think of here is LA, and if you moved there, there is so much more than just ghetto. But I can see where you are coming from, I have been to 49 states and there is not much in Minnesota, unless you're in St. Paul/Minneapolis area. Don't try to act different to fit in, just be you!

Stay outta dark alleys haha