I keep thinking people avoid me and never try to help me

Question

I keep blaming my gender/race because I don't see any other reason why they hate me like this, I know it's not because of my looks but sometimes I can't help it. I do have a positive attitude and help them out when they ask, I am nice.. what's going on?

Answer 1

wrong crowed i guess

Answer 2

The best way to get help when you want it is to be clear and direct: have you ever actually walked up to a friend and said "can you help me with ___?" It may be that people don't know you expect them to offer assistance.

As for avoiding you; sometimes people are just flaky. Former friends can decide they fit in with a different crowd -or Want to and in order to do it they distance themselves from their old friends.

It could also be that they're just wrapped up in themselves right now. Maybe there's problems at home, or they're going through something personal. A new job, a new boyfriend, a new sibling, working on getting grades up.. there are a million reasons why someone cannot find time to spend with old friends.

Finally, it's possible that you come off as "too nice" or "too perky". People who are forever cheerful can be unnerving: your friends may think you have no problems in your life and can't relate to theirs. Despite what the media tells us, most people don't like "perfect" people. We gravitate to people who seem to understand our life and have similar issues and problems, as well as likes and dislikes.

If you are forever doing things for others and not getting anything back, you are allowing yourself to be used. If you need help, ask. If you have a concern, share. And if none of that works, then move on and find better friends who like you as you are!

Answer 3

people don't like whiners and complainers and will try to avoid them all the time, as it gives bad energy, try not to complain for 7 days and you will see immediate changes

Answer 4

I agree with gman wrong crowd you may have one or two people of influence in the group who dont like you and as such are working againest you,it just happens you cant like everyone and vice versa,so find a new group to knock around with dont worry if you are a good person you will find your place.

Answer 5

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