I kinda messed up a relationship and i want her trust back how?

Question

i trust my girlfriends but she doesnt think i trust her but i do.. you see i have been saying i trust but i havent been acting appon it and i finaly relize it after so long and i keep saying im sorry and im trying all these things to get her back like taking her out to dinner and everything else. so i ask her how can i fix this and she told me, " i cant always be there to help you you have ti figuar it out on your own" well i think this is were we both need to figuar it out and she says its all up to me and i dont know what to do i bought her gift i made her a song but thats not good enough. please help and be honest what i can do ask any questions if you have any thanks very much i dont want to loose her

Answer 1

Is there something that you hold really dear to you that you would never let anybody touch? Let her touch. Ok, that's a little far fetched.

Here's what you do, think of something you have never told anyone or not a lot of people that is really emotional to you and tell her. After you tell her, be honest with your feelings and look her in the eyes and tell her that you told her that because you trust her with that information. If you are honest about it, she will feel it.

Buying her gifts is not going to fix the problem. Good luck.

Just keep in mind that you are going to start letting her in because I have a feeling you normally block her out with things such as deep deep feelings, thoughts, etc.

Answer 2

ok david c

she wants you to be a man and lead the relationship. I've said that same thing she's said, and basically,sadly she wants you to guess what she's thinking.

-the whole idea behind that is,,,you should know her well enough to recognize her needs of being close to you and feeling like you click, and you understanding that she needs to know you're crazy about her and would do anything for her.

find a way to show her that everyday,,,and she'll trust you. little by little.

anything worth having is worth the hard work right?

quit trying to buy her things and take the easy way out.

Listen to the problem you guys are having, and think of a personal way that you can help resolve it.

can't give you much more advice than that. it's a relationship..and every woman want something different in a man. be sensitive. be strong. be wise. see her side of things. stick up for yourself....<-each woman expects something else, so if you want her. Get to know what she wants, really wants. and be that.

watch her and see how she responds to certain ways you act. that'll help tell you what to do. make loving her an art, a hobby, be interested in EVERYTHING about her.

Men forget the art of love...

Are you up for the challenge?

Answer 3

I think your a little late for that now

Answer 4

This is simple! She needs to feel loved. You never try to understand her only LOVE her in spirit,mind and body. To love her in body you MUST make a commitment to her, that means you MUST marry her, and be true to her, and never lie to her about anything great or small. Ask her to marry you with a ring and a date to be married, then she will know your intentions are honorable, and so will everyone else. Be a man of honor in all things great and small and she will adore you.

Answer 5

Give her some time to see you mean it. Actions speak louder than words (or flowers or chocolate or songs) so just resolve to be there for her and be considerate, patient and mature.

Then dont blow it by demanding that she believe you immediately... let her learn for herself that you have really changed. Women work with feelings and beliefs where guys think if they just say and promise, whats the big deal. You want her to believe you, show her and demonstrate your love.

Answer 6

just let her know that you have thought about it and that you trust her and she needs to accept that you are trying.