I know im young but please help?

Question

well i love kids but having a baby hurts bad..so i was thinking of adoption,well i think i would be weird to have children without your DNA.So when i get older so yo think adoption is good,or do they do something so you cant feel the baby coming out? thanks

and dont say ohh your to young..i know that this is for the future

do you think adoption is good

have you adopted?

do you like it?

Answer 1

If having a baby was all that painful, no one would ever do it a second time!   Since most people have more than one child, I think it's safe to say that almost everyone lives through it and goes back for more.

The purpose of adoption is not for you to become a parent.   Adoption exists for children who need loving, caring, responsible families.

Answer 2

I totally agree with Tish on this one. You think it's ok to have another woman go through the pain of childbirth so you can have a baby, you are young.

Answer 3

Uhm,first off. I can't believe you don't want to have a baby just because it "hurts". You can have a C-Section or Natural Birth. Both have the typical pain. But it's most certainly worth it.AND less expensive.I'm pretty sure those are the only two options from having a surogate mother carry your biological baby. But, if you must, adoption is fine. :) And you are giving an unwanted baby a loving home.But mind you, the guy may WANT his OWN kid.. So, I don't know...I guess when the time comes you will know. :)

*hey that dude below me stole my answer :) ha

Answer 4

Uhm,first off. I can't believe you don't want to have a baby just because it "hurts". You can have a C-Section or Natural Birth. Both have the typical pain. But it's most certainly worth it.AND less expensive.I'm pretty sure those are the only two options from having a surogate mother carry your biological baby. But, if you must, adoption is fine. :) And you are giving an unwanted baby a loving home.But mind you, the guy may WANT his OWN kid.. So, I don't know...I guess when the time comes you will.....

Answer 5

Adoption is NOT good. It hurts to grow up lonely because you are nothing like your adoptive family. Babies NEED their own mothers. The bond that happens in the womb is NEVER replaced.

As far as childbirth goes, it's easy peasey if you are able to trust your body, have a healthy pregnancy and have a home water birth. Doing it drug-free is the best because your body will kick in with pain relieving and relaxing endorphins. Being in the hospital and at the mercy of multiple interventions interferes with a pain free birth.

Answer 6

are you talking about you adopting children when you get older???

trust me when you get older you will want to be pregnant....and feel something growing inside of you

and childbirth is NOT that hard...the pain goes away when you see ur baby...ur a woman and thats what we are made to do...

Answer 7

lemme make sure i'm reading you right:

you can't fathom going through pregnancy and childbirth because it "hurts bad", yet you expect another woman to do it so that you can be a mommy???

yeah...you are young, dear.  and quite single-minded.

good lord!

Answer 8

The pains of childbirth can be controlled, as long as you listen to your doctor, and take care of yourself.  They have medications, and they have a spinal block for the pain.  By the time you are a mother, you'll realize that the pain of childbirth is nothing compared to the pain of having a baby cry, just because it has colic, or go through a medical test because it is sick.  

I have adopted a son, and it had nothing to do with how the baby comes out, nor should it.  The adult body is prepared for it in ways you'll understand when you're old enough.  I love my son with all my heart, body, and soul.  I would die for him, and when he cries, I cry inside.  I am the most blessed person ever to be able to raise him, and I pray that I'm the mother he deserves, which is hard to live up to, because he deserves the best.  Also, if you can give birth, chances are you'll want to.  It does have some pain, but the mind lessons it as time goes on!

Answer 9

While adoption is fine, you can have your own children with little if no discomfort.

Answer 10

yes adoption is good.

no i never did.

and when your older you probably will change your mind and want to have your own,your to young to decide this now.and yes the pain is bad,but part of the whole thing!!!

Answer 11

for the record there is nothing wrong with you being afraid of he pain. But i am a young mother, i had my daughter at 18. I went through 29 hours of hard contraction labor and didn't even have ANY drugs until after the first 19 hours. And i still had an emergency c-section at the end. It does hurt I'm not gonna lie, but its not that bad as far as them giving you anything to take away the pain, i9t doesn't fully take it away but it does help. Adoption is always a good choice a lot of good babies need good homes but its VERY difficult to adopt especially if you want a newborn. My advice is to have our own its not that bad.

Answer 12

you're seriously gonna give up having your own baby because.. it hurts? the birth is a couple hours long, but you'll have the baby for the rest of your life and never worry about how you're gonna explain being adopted to them. also when there teens they'll go through a phase of 'you're not actually my mom.'  if i were you i wouldnt give up being able to have a baby, to adopt.

Answer 13

I think adoption is great, but I also know that you seem to change your mind about labor as you age. When I was young, I thought I wouldnt have kids because the whole thing sounded too scary. Now I have 2, and it was worth it. Labor hurts, but when you are ready for children, that wont matter. I do think that adoption is wonderful though, so it's great to consider that option too. DNA doesnt really matter. A child is someone to love, no matter what.My husband and I want to adopt a little girl in the future(we have two biological boys).

Answer 14

interesting question....

adoption is wonderful...but i would imagine that giving birth is equally wonderful.  

give it some time and you'll develop your own opinions on the subject.