I know my husband will want to try again?

Question

Hi,

Im 36wks with our 5th girl.

My husband really is a mans man, and was always the dad i could imagine kicking around the footy with his son/s.

After our first two girls, we started really trying for a boy.

To no avail.

I know he loves his girls, and im very happy, i just wanted healthy babies and i always thought it would be weird for a boy to have 3 or 4 elder sisters anyway.

I know my husband adores his girls too, and he wouldnt trade any of them for a boy! Even when we found out this one in my belly was another girl, he was extatic!

But i know, he desperately wants a boy.

We have tried all the methods, and 5 kids is plenty for me.

I don't want the 6th that i KNOW he will ask for, and i hate it that he is unsatisfied.

He says he is satisfied, but he thinks of it as a treat.

I still don't see why he needs a "treat"

I hope this makes sense, and again, I know he loves the girls but i feel like he doesnt love them enough sometimes if he wants a boy again, the girls inbetween trying for a boy and until we get one, to him, as i see it, are like unwanted.

Any insight is great.

He denies it all, and im sure its true, but i cant help but think it.

Answer 1

I have 3 little girls, so I understand where your coming from. I recently purchased the book How to Choose the s*x of your baby. So I'm going to read that before we try again. But they say you have a better chance of making a boy, if you have s*x on the last 2 days of ovulation. But if you don't want another that is something that you and your husband are going to have to work out. I'm sure he does love your daughters, but your right every man wants a son. But it's not our faults that we have all girls, the man is who determines the s*x of the child. Have you thought about sperm seperation? Seems like your hubby has tons fo girls swimming around.

Answer 2

5 kids is enough, it's your body and you dont have to keep getting pregnant to please him. Tell him if he wants a boy he can get pregnant and carry the baby for 9 months and give birth to it himself. I stopped after 2 kids. I didnt want anymore. My hubby wants another too. My first child is not genetically his but he is her daddy is every other way. He says that he wants a girl that is "his" but I dont want to go through another pregnancy. I got IUD implant to insure I will not get pregnant for at least 5 years. Maybe one day I will change my mind but it's not likely. Just tell him that you tried 5 times and that is enough.  

Answer 3

Maybe you should tell him after your 5th girl is born that you physically and mentally cant do it, that 5 is your limit and you have tried for a while now and what would he do if you had a girl no. 6!!...Some people just cant consieve or carry boys...My uncle and his wife have had 7 girls trying for a boy and their 8th was a boy and she had a miscarrage...

Its not fair on you...Try and explain to him how you really feel...He has to understand that you have call it a day sooner or later otherwise you'll end up with a whole ballet class!!

Good Luck...

Answer 4

Even if he is hiding that fact that he is a little bit disappointed it sounds like you have done all you can do. It sounds like you have approached him about it and he's saying all is fine.  Life doesn't always give us what we want and part of being a grown up is that you are happy with what you have.  There's always going to be something we want that we dont' have.  That doesn't mean he can't be 100% happy with his life.  I'm assuming you have enough money and space for 6 children since you didn't mention it.  Pregnancy takes a huge toll on your body as well.  I wouldn't have a six just for the sake of trying for  a boy.  You would need to make the decision together and think of it as "do we want another child in our family" instead of "do we want to try for a boy".  

Answer 5

I think you should believe him - daughters love their daddies! You shouldn't have to try again - five is a LOT of children! Besides, not all girls are girly. I have a niece who is a fantastic football (soccer) player. She loves cars and she builds things with her dad every weekend.

I think you need to do some thinking - are you secretly worried that your husband is disappointed in you because you're not producing a son? could he actually be fully satisfied with all of his lovely daughters, but you're insecure?

Answer 6

I'm sorry your having these doubts and issues.  If you really feel like 5 is enough for you then I would just be honest with him and tell him you really feel 5 is plenty.  Have either of you ever thought about adopting  a baby boy or a very young boy, like a toddler?  There are lots of kids that need good homes, it might something to consider.

good luck with your new baby.