I know this guy & his ex dumped him right before their 1 month anniversary. Then, they got back together but 2

Question

months later, she dumps him & blames it on him. I have feelings for him but I'm already in a committed relationship. I won't even go anywhere near him because I'm afraid I'll develop even stronger feelings for him. I know he's still in "love" with his ex & he even admits it. I feel like I should try to help him win her back. I feel torn apart because the first time she broke up with him, he came to me for advice. I felt since I like him & I want him to be happy, I gave him advice & it worked. They got back together. The second time around, he didn't want to involve me & I wondered was it because he liked me. I don't doubt that I give out wonderful advice because he also said that I give great advice & I actually listen to people when they need to talk. I don't know. Should I help him win back his girl (because my techniques seem to always work) even though I like him? I'm so torn.

Answer 1

it seems like he sees u as a good friend! or since u in a relationship hes going back to back with his ex, u should talk to him and be open about it, tell him the truth! that way u can be torn up good! or both be happy!

Answer 2

Your best strategy now is complete and utter indifference.

Answer 3

It's good and generous that you help a friend and give sensible advice.

Your liking him doesn't necessary mean that you should 'have' him. Have you thought the mess that would create? Are there unmet and unaddressed needs in your own relationship?

If you get involved with him, it might ruin your own committed relationship.Is it really worth it?

From your description it seems that they have serious compatibility issues. Give advice and support but also space to let them both make own decisions otherwise you risk everyone involved hating you.

All the best!

Answer 4

Tell him the truth!!  It really can not hurt anything but giving you the knowledge of if you need to move on or if you two can start something.  Now the guy that you are with, do you have feelings for him or are you with him just because I do not want to be alone.  

Answer 5

first thing to do is to ask him if he still want his girl. you're giving him advice not knowing if he still loves his ex. and if you want this guy, tell it to your boyfriend, you're hurting him and it's better to breakup up with him. i know it's not easy, but try to.

and if you like this guy, don't give him advices anymore, you saw what his ex did, and i know you don't want him to hurt again, make your move, tell him you love him.

good luck