I know this is strange but I spend a lot of time crying. Why did he treat me like that? Long sorry!!!!!

Question

I'm episcopalian.

Okay, I'm a young female & I used to have a crush on my priest, and wanted to be his friend. Well, kind of b/c I'm really quiet & introverted so I don't like to talk a lot are hang out with people. It was all in my head basically.

He always pushed me away. One time I built up enough courage to talk to him after the service & say hello & ask how he was doing & he stopped me mid sentence & told me he had to go pick up his kids. I said okay and by. A few minutes later, I saw him talking to someone else for a long time.

When I went to New Orleans where his wife is from, he didn't even tell me he was down there at the same time, even though he had returned my email about a church mailing. His wife had told me, if they ever came down there they would visit me.

One day I wore a fake brand name shirt, I'm poor. And he kept repeating the name diff ways in front of a ppl at church.

Then when he took his sabbatical, I offered to help him pack. He accepted. He was 30 min. late b/c he said he needed boxes. Then, we packed for a couple of hours. During that time he gave me two gifts. One was a mini rug from Africa & the other a 10 y/o old emailing device w/addresses still in it. He said it was old & there was nothing he could do with it. He then said he wasn't doing anything else for the day, and I left w/o him giving me any contact if. I asked him what he planned on doing he said visiting fam, consulting, & kids stuff in Aug.

One time he saw me crying b/c I was really hurt about something. He didn't acknowledge my tears.

He has said and written to me good things like I'm such a good soul, he's never seen me be mean to anyone, & I have a lot of talents & abilities. But he never acted like it.

Answer 1

It sounds like you still have a crush on your priest.  The best advice to give you in this situation is to forget about him and move on with your life.  He has a wife and kids and is not interested in starting something outside his marriage.  Your priest probably has a hard time telling you this.  You need to find someone who appreciates you for your talents and abilities.  Good luck.

Answer 2

Who is the victim here?  I don't want to stir up bad feelings from anyone, particularly by myself, in trying to answer you.  I have little in the form of information.   By trying to remain objective and concise.

See, we get our selves into these little messes, and blame it all on someone else.  Don't you see in hindsight that your priest is doing the right thing for his profession, and you are blaming HIM for some awful reason.  Do you watch the news?  Do you understand how difficult it is in this day and age to stay on the path of righteousness.  Look, the guy is married!!!  You are not supposed to act like this to a priest, a married man.  Case closed.  Do not make a fool of your self any more than you have already.