I know this is the wrong section but i always seem to get good answer from here?

Question

my mum is an alcoholic i am 24 and I don't live with her she lives about 2 h away from me but she is runing her life her partner hits her she is really depressed my sister and i have tried talking to her but she just gets mad I don't want to see her live her life like this but i dont know what to do any idears?

Answer 1

wrong section

Answer 2

There is nothing you can do.  It's her life and she is the one that has to fix it.  You can't pressure her to stay sober, because it would only work short time.  She needs to figure out how bad things are and make the first step for things to work out full term.

If you don't want to see her live her live the way she is, then don't.  Don't support her lifestyle in anyway, encourage positive changes and pray that she will come to terms with what's going on before it's too late.

There are support groups out there called for friends and families of alcoholics.  I think you should seriously consider attending a meeting and see what others in your shoes have done and what's worked.  The main thing is to continue to live the life you want to and not be held make by her decisions.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I had to pull away from my mom.  She finally realized that she was alone.  No one was bending over backwards to help her (she wouldn't help herself) or checking up on her (to much heartache for me) and the booze wasn't worth it.

Answer 4

Sometimes there isn't anything you can do. Can't save somebody who don't want to be saved. Just be there for her.

Answer 5

I think if you find the local phone number for Al-Anon and call them up, there will be someone there who knows what you are going through and will tell you how they dealt with it.  If you go to one of their meetings, there will be a lot of people there who can relate to you and have helpful advice.  This is for free.  Here's the website where you can find these people near you.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

Take her to Dr Phill! Please!

Answer 7

Call the police in her area and let them know there is a serious case of abuse that is worth looking into.. Other than that TALK to your mom and let her know how bad you feel and if that doesnt work seek other options... Maybe REHAB????

Answer 8

I agree ^

butt.. my sister is an alcoholic and bulimic.

She died 3 times but is now still alive.

seriously, my whole family agrees with therapy. Go for it.

Good Luck

Answer 9

therapy  

Answer 10

If its really that bad, I would let the cops know.  They could come over when she is home, but he isn't and talk to her about the abuse.  Good luck

Answer 11

Pray for her.  God can still do miracles today.