I know this might sound weird?

Question

but my son is 13 and since I had my other daughter he hasnt done anything but acted like a baby again, I gave him the same mount of attention but he would not stop, then he started wetting himself at day and night, the came the messing, he wont wash his sheets so I have to and f I try to get him to stop he bites me and hits me, he also throws a tatrum. I dont know what to do to him, should i make him wear diapers again if he wont wash his sheets, my friend said I shouldnt but I think I should.

Answer 1

He shouldn't wear diapers - that is absurd. He needs to be punished for wetting the bed so he will stop. He obviously does it on purpose to get attention and act like a baby. Punish him for his behavior and let him know that you, AS THE PARENT IN THIS SITUATION, will not tolerate that kind of behavior. He is WAY too old for that. If he is old enough to do laundry, he is definitely old enough to know better. Talk to him about acting immature and let him know that he needs to be the 13 year old instead of the 13 month old. And, reassure him of your love for him so he doesn't thrive for it and start acting out to get it. Good Luck to you!

Answer 2

If you have already talked to him then maybe a verbal threat will help (taking away his things).  If not you may need to seek the help of a psychologist.  I'm sorry your son is taking the new baby's arrival so badly.  Good Luck.

Answer 3

I think this story must go beyond what you've posted.  A healthy, happy, well adjusted "normal" thirteen year old boy doesn't wet his pants and have a temper tantrum for attention.  They are mostly more mature than that and like to hang out with their friends and they want to grow up...not be the baby.

Answer 4

don't wash his sheets. tell him "you'll just have to sleep w/o sheets if you won't wash them" just lay down the law! does your husband help you? he should help enforce the boundries. sounds like you need a supernanny!

Answer 5

It's the same as when you have a 3 year old and you bring home a new baby. He is jealous!!!! No, don't make him wear a diaper (like he would anyway, he's 13, seriously?). He needs to know he is loved and cared for, but that you won't put up with his negative behaviour.

Good luck, this will get better. How long have you had your daughter home?

Answer 6

slap him, tell him to grow up, and ground him. also inform him that he's supposed to be a teenager now and imagine what it would be like for his friends at school to know how he behaves at home. DON'T change his sheets. he'll get the picture.

He's far too old to be behaving like this because of a new sibling.

Answer 7

ok well he NEEDS counseling

if you cant afford a private therapist talk to his school, they could have a counseler on staff, they may be able to help. or contact your local YMCA, sometimes they have people on staff that can help as well.

FYI the sheets are the least of your worries!

Answer 8

ok.this is not such a logical reaction but if i were him,i would just be a little bit jealous but not to this extent...Perhaps,get him to a phychologist or better explain him that you expect something better from him since he is mature enough to understand that a newborn baby needs all your attention!Furthermore,his hostile behavior towards you is something that can easily be ''corrected''...soon or later he gonna realize his fault and change his attitude...

Answer 9

you need to be the boss and put his *** on time out. You are the boss right?

Answer 10

No way hun...he needs to learn to be a respectable boy. If he doesn't wash his sheets then keep them there an don't let him sleep anywhere else. I bet he won't want to lay on some messed up sheets after long and he will clean them.  Perhaps take him to a counselor or therapist just a few times so he can talk about his issues with having a sibling would be helpful. But hun do not give in to to his unacceptable ways!! You will pay for it later if you do!

Answer 11

what i would do is go and take him to family counseling and can sit down and talk about why making him to do or just a regular therapist to. Cause he might be really jealous and all and might be ways to have him to stop from doing it. especially hard if was only child to now and was spoiled he might be extremely jealous tell him he is still whatever u call him and u love him it is just that i got a baby now and tell him maybe once a week or bi weekly or monthly she if your spouse can watch baby and u two go out and do something that he would like to do for a few hrs and try to she how u can help him more and maybe she if he wants to help u with baby by changing her feeding her and playing with her and so fourth to it is easier on him and realizes that u are not abandoning because u have another child now cause he could feel that to. well i wish u the best of luck. their are counseling u could go to that is covered by medical insurance cause i went to she therapist most of my life cause was in foster care and all.

Answer 12

wow sounds spoiled u need to straight that boy out

Answer 13

I would take both of the kids the 11 yr old and 13 yr old to the doctor for bed wetting.My son wet the bed til he was 12 and I took him to the doctor and they gave him some medicine to take for a little while and it stopped. Do not treat the 13 yr old like a baby ut do plan activities where maybe just the two of you can go do something.That may help with the jealousy.