I know this sounds dumb but how do i 'get a life'?

Question

i had a very sheltered childhood, and have realised i'm living a sheltered adulthood too.

i have a small son so nights on the town aren't much of an option!

Answer 1

on line dating?

Answer 2

take them out on adventures, visit parks, the country side, let your son play in the woods, try painting, maybe you take up photography? Take up a night class or day class while he is at school/kindergarten etc

Answer 3

Read books, go to museums, art galleries, park, the theatre, playgroups, nightschool (if you can find a babysitter)...

Answer 4

first of all your question is not dumb, any question that is in someones head relates to uncertainty about something and to resolve uncertainty we all need to ask questions to gain insights into new stuff.

you seem to have recognised that there is a whole world out there and you may have become aware that life is passing you by.

life will not come out and invite you into it, it is an open invitation for us all to join in and enjoy/experience all it has to offer.

as you have led a sheltered life yourself are you hoping to give your son many new experiences and a taste of what life offers so he won't have similar feelings you may have about not making the most of life.

it is never too late to get on the carousel of life. when you have children it can sometimes be like a second chance at childhood, that doesn't mean to say you have to try and recreate your own lost childhood through them, but embrace their new learning and discoveries with them. young children are fantastic for openings to speak to people, they have no inhibitions and have no shyness, take your lead from your son. get out to the local parks, parent and toddler groups, look in the adult education leaflets that are out now, for family craft days and enrol on one if he is old enough, they usually do classes for young children and parents. this can get you in touch with other adults, go to the park with a picnic, a football play with him and enjoy yourself.

many adults who have led sheltered lifes as children lack in social communication skills and confidence if this is the case enroll on a life skills course. Find out about yourself write a list of what you would like to do and how you could go about achieveing it. Make some of them realistic and achieviable by looking into effort, cost, and time to do them in. if everything on the list is or never will be obtainable then you would be defeating yourself before you started.

everyone has unattainable thoughts on what we would like to gain from life these are dreams and wishes, which are fantastic for taking you off for another world for a while, for everyday achievements make them attainable even if it means a bit of thought and planning going into it. too many goals set too far from reach can have an adverse effect and introvert you back into a quiet life.

The self awareness you have about the life you have led up to now could be a new start for you and your son, it could have been easy to think that this is the way your life has always been and will always be like, there is no effort required to stay as you are, it is an easy way to accept what and who you are without doing anything.

By asking the question you have made this real and it sounds like you would like to make changes to your life, it will take effort,courage and time, and you may take one step forward two back. if you don't try though, will you sit down in x amount of years wishing you had at least tried to alter your path. or you could sit back in years to come and have loads of funny moments and memories of your experiences you helped happen.

nights on the town are not all about living life they are a social product of mutual gathering to enjoy the company of others. living life is a 24/7 thing, within each new day a new discovery, achievement, friendship is waiting to be experienced, life is the whole minute, hour, day, month, year. enjoy it as it happens small steps at a time.

good luck

Answer 5

Try volunteering.

0r joining a service club such as Rotary.