I know this sounds incredibly mean-but...its just how i feel..?

Question

This is whats wrong...i just honestly dont like my grandma. I know that sounds SUPER mean and i am lucky to have a grandma but i cnt help but feel that way. i always feel like she wants me to be someone else..some i dont know..perfect. when i tell her about my achievements in school (like making all honors classes) she just says "0h good" with a complete straight face then says "lets hope you get in them next year too"- and then thats the end of that. im like (in my head) "gee thanks, u could be happy for me atleast! instead of worrying about 'next year' i think she should just show that she is proud of me 'now'. :/ And she is S0 serious all the time...she barley laughs. and when i say a joke she just stares at me like i said something wrong and its not inappropriete or anything.i find this rude and bothersome. Also- when she asks me to come over its very boring! she'll say "lets do a puzzle" and if i offer to do somthing else she looks hurt. and if she calls to ask me to come over and i already have plans for a party or something she NEVER lets its GO! for example the next time i see her she'll be like "did you have fun at your party instaed of spending time with me?" or "maybe another time you will have the time to be with your grandma." And after she rudley comments me constantly or completly ignores me she expects me to treat her like shes "the shiit" like shes the BEST grandma in the world. im not mean to her or anything i treat her very nicley but her act is getting old n as i get older i dislike her more and more.She is just rude to me 3/4 of the time. ( sorry for ranting about this but it upsets me!) what do i do? be kind to her.. ignore her? i DEFFINETLY cant say something because then she will speak to my mom and i will never hear the end of it from herr... :( from what you heard from me is it wrong of me to dislike her most of the time or do you disagree with me? please helpp geve me ur thoughts and opinions on this...similar stories? THANKS!<3

Answer 1

You know, it is not a hard rule that you have to like someone just because they&#039;re old or related or both. If they treat you like they don&#039;t care about your life, and only are concerned about what they think you should do for or with them, they are presenting themselves as quite selfish. If you have done all you can to be a &quot;good&quot; grandchild, it&#039;s not you who is &quot;tripping&quot;, so don&#039;t feel like you are under obligation to feel guilty for wanting to skip a visit or two. If she doesn&#039;t get it there isn&#039;t much you can do. Just try not to let her rule how you feel about yourself, you&#039;ve done nothing wrong, Okay?

Answer 2

hey!! i totally understand  ur feeling.......its really disgusting when u achieve something great ur parents or gandparemts or whoever dosent appreciate dat much as it should have got.........i have got dis problem wid ma mum.....she just says oh well.......good!1 and dat&#039;s all i mean i felt so bad but then i got sed to dis habbit and now everythin&#039;s fine...&quot;IF U DONT GET THE THING U WANT JUST STOP TRYING FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!this is wat i think now and ma life goes on smoothly........u have to get gud marks for urself not for her but also dont ignore her......elderly people have their own anxiety...u should understand that &amp; just dont think dat she is rude coz she is much older than u and she has d right to tell u wat she feels u should understand how lucky u r dat u have ur grandparents.....EVERY1 IS NOT AS LUCKY AS U!!!!!!! :( so plz however she is plz respect her and u dont get rude to her...EVER!!

Answer 3

OMG NO WAY!!!!

i have the SAME problem with my grandma and i have NO idea what to do about it.

except my grandma annoys the h**l outta me about everything she does &amp; says. i try to keep my cool, but i just cant! i think its her sarcasm she uses when im already annoyed that makes me wanna slap her, and everything she does or says to me makes me soo angry and i get a really bad attitude, and nobody else drives me this crazy, except her! when my mom does stuff like her, it dosent bother me one bit..but UGHHH my grandma yuck....

i really dont know how to help you, cause im in the same situation, trying to figure it out. just try talking to her! maybe it will help?

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Answer 4

I am in the EXACT same situation.  My grandma criticizes me so much.  She may not realize it, but it&#039;s just the little things she does.  I painted a picasso-style portrait for my aunt and uncle and she told me, &quot;don&#039;t paint me one like that.&quot; I feel like that&#039;s a direct insult towards me! And, she asks if I still work out at the gym. Those are just low blows to me. (I know I&#039;m not fat, so I don&#039;t let it bother me that much) And she asks all the time if my sister and I would go to &quot;supper&quot; with her. But, who wants to go when she&#039;s such a *****? I won&#039;t go into other things, but I will say that she is extremely judgmental and selfish. And she&#039;s supposedly a Christian! Luckily my whole family doesn&#039;t like her so it&#039;s easy to share my feelings.  I&#039;ve never really confronted her about it because I don&#039;t know how she would react.  And I feel bad about confronting her because she&#039;s divorced and lives alone with her dog.  

I would recommend trying to not take it personally. (I really should take my own advice) They are old people and set in their ways, so unfortunately trying to change them to be nice or something is asking a lot.  Also, confronting her may be what you need to feel comfortable around her.  And, if it goes all wrong, it&#039;s not like you&#039;re obliged to talk to her.  Sometimes time is the best cure for things like this.