I lack emotion, and it scares me.?

Question

I don't want to be in a relationship, I just want to be alone, and I'm pretty sure thats not normal for a 16 year old teen girl. I just don't want to get close to anyone, just because loving someone means i have more to lose. Is this normal? -no stupid answers cause i'll just delete them...thanks :)

Answer 1

I wouldn't worry about it right now. Your still young and its probably best not to get tied into emotional relationship right now - especially if you aren't ready.

Take this time - your singleness to find out who you are, and love yourself, and dig deep as to why you've got these walls up. Its the best thing you can do for yourself now - to better help you in the future.

Answer 2

I'm going to avoid pointing out the irony of the sentence, I lack emotion and it scares me....but yeah, this is normal.

Answer 3

I feel the exact same way sometimes. For me, I think it's because I don't need anyone else. I'm happy with where I am and having a boyfriend wont make things any better for me, in fact; it might make things too complicated and worse. I; too, don't want to get too close to anyone, because I can't stand the fact of losing someone I love, that itself scares me. And relationships fail all the time, and I can't stand that.

I'm sure it'll change eventually. I guess i'm just going with the flow and whatever happens, happens. I'm not going to go looking for one, but; like I said, whatever happens, happens.

It's normal, I think. It's just like, I'm scared to fall in love, in a way & than I also just don't want too. Ah, being a teen is so confusing.

Well good luck, I think it's pretty normal though.

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Answer 4

Actually i went through a rather similar stage when i was around 15-16.

I don't think it's weird or anything I guess its your subconscious mind telling you that you are just not ready to be in a relationship at the moment and that's why you don't feel attracted to anyone, it actually gives you more time to find yourself without any distractions.

I used to think to myself the same thing, loving someone means you'll lose a lot and with time i learned that in order to really live a little you have to take some risk.

My suggestion is focus on you at the moment, on your school, on your thing, on getting to college(if ur planning on going) and eventually when you feel it's time to be with someone that someone will probably appear.

What worries me is the fact that you are asking this question , cause normally when someone ask something like "are they weird?" it's because someone tells them that they are.

If this is the case just ignore the person who told you so, you are as normal as can be and take it from me being normal is overrated, being weird can sometimes help you get ahead of the pack.

Answer 5

It doesn't mean you lack emotion at all, sweetie! =) You're just not ready to be a relationship and you're ok just being single...that's cool, no problem in that at all! I really don't feel like being in a relationship with boys, especially immature teen aged boys...stay strong and don't worry about that =)

Answer 6

alright avoid ppl

Answer 7

Sometimes I just don't feel like dealing with boys either. You definatly aren't alone. We all need time to just focus on ouselves. Who would want to have a boyfriend 24/7 anyways ;]

Answer 8

Have you ever considered that you are an Asexual person? google it and see.

Answer 9

Technically its your hormones acting up...  Psychologically you are entering a stage of development that says you are now at the stage of finding your own identity and your mind is actually working on it, last but not the least, its basically just "yourself" figuring out ways on how to prepare for your future since College is not so far away and you have that whole life with your dreams ahead of you...

To share a thought with you, learning more about yourself through introspection - or self-examination, your wants, desires, dreams, goals and purpose, will help greatly with your problem of not having "emotion" as you perceive it.  I believe that a person "fears" something not because of fear itself but more of due to the fact that he/she doesn't know.  Yearn to know, live to learn.  Be prepared.  You are the type of person that values good preparation for your future.

Good luck!