I learned i am having a boy and i was wondering.....?

Question

if my son has to have a circumcision my husband isn't circumcised and he does great not problems a t all so i was wondering if you half to give him a circumcision or is it just your choice?

Answer 1

It's completely up to you!  Nobody can force you to mutilate your baby!

Answer 2

I wish my parents hadn't chosen it for me, when I found out about it I read everything I could, I know tons of information about and have read both pro and anti circumcision websites, I really wanted to believe it was good, but the truth just isn't there, you see and hear all these claims but if you ask for the actual study nobody has them or they are so old and used invalid techniques and would not even be considered for publishing, I wanted to believe it was good but if you look at both sides, circumcising without an immediate medical need makes no sense at all. I later did f******n restoration restoring what was left (they do leave some f******n) but it's not all restorable, but what I was able to get back was great. but this came at a price, I can no longer see circumcision as cosmetic or as if it does not really matter, things that I thought were normal I only realized were problems after I restored and no longer had them, sexual enjoyment is way up. I can't imagine how much better the real thing is.

people have said in relation to sexual pleasure

intact=10

cut=3

restored=7

and from my experience I agree with the cut/restored numbers

let your son have an entire p***s, he only has one life to live, only one chance to feel the full sexual pleasure, if you circumcise him he will never be able to experience it

http://knol.google.com/k/george-hill/cir...

www.nocirc.org

Answer 3

It's your choice. Most people aren't doing it - worldwide it's not common and the USA is the last developed nation where it's still done, even then only 50% of babies are done. Doctors and nurses might ask you, but say NO and they can't do it. There's no reason for it, as you know by your husband. My boyfriend is also not circumcised and has had absolutely no f******n problems. Plus, the f******n provides a lot of pleasure to men, and circumcision is painful. I wouldn't do it if I had sons.

Harriet

Answer 4

Your husband isn't circumcised and never has any problems, so why on earth would you circumcise your son? Its a choice but in your case I see no reason at all to do it.

Here are some other facts I suggest you consider:

- According to a Gov't study, only HALF of baby boys are being circumcised in the US nowadays (compared to 80% a few decades ago) and worldwide only 20% are.

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/series/sr_1...

- Circumcision is now seen as medically unnecessary. The AAP does not recommend routine circumcision anymore. They say "it is not essential to the child's current wellbeing."

- The f******n is not just a useless flap of skin. It holds many protective, sensory and sexual functions, and since the invention of the shower, its real easy to keep clean.

http://www.noharmm.org/mothering.htm



- An baby's uncircumcised p***s requires NO special attention. You don't need to clean under the f******n after every diaper change! He'll discover his f******n whenever he's ready (which won't be retractable until the age of 5-10) and then its a case of simply educating him about his own personal hygiene.

http://www.circumstitions.com/Care.html

I think you should leave your son’s p***s intact — He’ll be a bit of perfection when he’s born so 'if it aint broke dont fix it'!

Answer 5

It is totally up to you, whichever you feel comfortable with and will be best for your family.  I can see why you might not want to, since your husband isn't and your son might feel strange if he looks different than dad.  But if you do decide, I can tell you, we had our son circumsized and he did great.  They don't remember it at all, and some babies even sleep through it.  Taking care of the wound is not much trouble either, and it heals easily.  Just think about for a while, talk to your hubby, and make your own decision.  Good luck, and congrats on the boy!

Answer 6

Completely your choice, and I would strongly advise against circumcision. It is unnessecary, painful, and not without serious risks. Here is some information, with links, to help you make your decision....

First, only 50% of boys nationwide are circumcised. You may actually find that your son is in the minority in the locker room if you cut him. (I don't advocate making this decision on those grounds, but if you were leaning towards doing it because you don't want him to be "different", you should know that the boys will be pretty evenly split between cut and intact and noone will think intact is weird)

Second, it is VERY painful to an infant. Most doctors still don't use any anesthesia, those that do rarely offer adequate anesthesia because the only stuff that works is not safe enough to use in infants for such a "minor" procedure. Further, some of the pain meds offered to infants aren't even reccomended for use on babies! Further, some doctors argue that it has beenb done "for thousands of years" without anesthetic- what they neglect to tell you is that a medical circumcision can take over 15 minutes to complete. A Jewish ritual circumcision, by contrast, takes under 60 seconds to complete (and the bay is given wine) Here is some info on the pain.....

http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/

http://www.circumcision.org/response.htm

http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/taddio2... (note in this one that even infants offered pain meds for the procedure showed signs of post traumatic stress!)

You should also know that studies have shown that the most sensitive parts of the male anatomy of ON the f******n- NOT the head of the p***s. By cutting off the f******n, you remove a mans most errogenous genital tissue. Here is a study about that.... (note that other studies found no difference, but they neglected to test the sensitivty of the f******n- they only tested the glans p***s of intact and cut men and didn't pay any attention to the f******n at all) http://www.nocirc.org/touch-test/touchte...

You should know that infant boys are EASIER to care for when they are intact. The f******n does not retract until late childhood or even puberty, so you do nothing special, just wipe the outside of his p***s clean and leave it alone. In a cut boy he will be extremely sensitive for a few weeks because the head of the p***s is raw and exposed (they have to tear the f******n off of the head in infants, it is naturally fused). During this time you will need to keep it VERY clean and may need to cover the wound with vaseline and guaze. Furthermore, to prevent painful and bleeding erections later in life, doctors are now commonly leaving more skin behind- in a cut boy this means you may have to push the left over skin back at every diaper change and clean beneath it to prevent it from readhereing or infecting. The very thing that mother's think they avoid by circumcising! In short-

Intact = wipe like a finger, NEVER retract

Cut= vaseline, clean thoroughly, push back remaining skin to prevent adhesions etc (the last step perhaps for several months or years)

Here is an excellent tutorial on the basics of intact care and circumcision....

http://www.lactivistintactivist.com/?pag...

Another factor in your decision is that circumcised boys experience a 12% increase in their risk of MRSA infection. MRSA is commonly picked up in hospitals (where circumcision is performed in non-sterile conditions) and has been known to kill adults. I wouldn't want to deal with it in an infant. Also, 12% is a BIG risk, the risk of a boy "needing" a circ later in life is WELL below that- under 1%. http://www.nocirc.org/publish/12-Answers...

The so called "benefits" of circumcision are generally trumped up. A big one now is that it "prevents" AIDS. All the studies showing "benefits" like this have been poorly designed and inconclusive. Also, for every study that finds a "benefit" there are more studies that find no benefit. http://www.icgi.org/

It is rather eye-opening to see how circumcision first became popular in the US to begin with. It was virtually unknown in this country until the 20th century. This slideshow takes you through the rise of circumcision.... http://youtube.com/watch?v=f4unKTMpBGA

Finally, you should watch a video or two of the procedure so you are fully informed of what your infant will go through. I will warn you that these are graphic. If you can't handle watching them as an adult, why would you expect your infant son to endure them?

There are two main methods for circumcision here is one of each-

Gomco Clamp- note that the father is in the room, and the doctor claims to have used anesthesia (although whether or not he did is debateable, and he is dissmissive about the whole idea) http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=...

Plastibell- I include this because some parents will have you believe it is "painless" or "requires no cutting/blood" I'll let you judge for yourself.....

http://youtube.com/watch?v=qaqQ5Glro84

Congrats on the new addition! I'm sure given all the facts, you'll make the right decision for your son. :) -Neb

Answer 7

It is completley your choice.

I am choosing too just because I feel it is best, safer and more normal nowadays. Not to mention my husband said it is not an option. lol

But yes it is up to you.

Answer 8

no, it's your choice. they may tell you what to expect and such but, it is your choice. They may drop hints to try and make you change your mind but, listen to your heart. I had a dr that did that to me about breastfeeding the day after i had my son. I didn't appreciate her hounding me about it over and over. It was my decesion and that's that. lol.. Just don't let anyone try and talk u into something you are not sure of. good luck

Answer 9

It is totally your choice! I have a 9 month old son and after he was born, we were asked if we wanted him circumcised. We had the operation done, being that its easier to clean, and he won't be as prone to infection. But like I said the operation is up to you. And if your thinking about not doing it because you don't want it to hurt your son, believe me they don't feel it. And its not that hard to take care of if you were to get it done, all you have to do during a diaper change is gently clean it with a wipe, and apply petroleum jelly, we actually used antibiotic cream! And it only takes like 2-3 days for it to heal.

But just remember its yours and your husbands decision.

I hope this helps.

Answer 10

You know in most countries (I mean developed countries like England, France, Germany, Canada and Australia) the majority of boys are not circumcised right? Other than in the middle east, it's pretty much an American custom and completely optional. So no, he won't have to be circumcised if you don't want. The doctors might ask you if you want him circumcised, just kindly tell them "no, thank you" and that's the end of it.

Answer 11

it is your choice i did not have my son circumcised.