I left him! Do I give back the ring or cash it in?

Question

My former boyfriend of 6 years proposed to me in May 2007. I moved to another country in Sept. 2007 to be with him. I was jobless for 7 months b/c I was waiting on my immigration status. He started to have doubts around February and called the wedding off. He asked me to stay there because he loved me and wanted to work this out (meanwhile, my immigration papers were still processing).

My immigration status was approved in July and I had to fed-ex my passport so they could issue me my visa. The very next eveining after I fed-exed my passport he deceided to sleep out b/c he had too much to drink! He came in the next morning and casually kissed me... snowed me, etc. I sensed that something was off... I asked him, he said nothing happened. Asked again 3 hours later.... nothing happened. Asked again in the late afternoon.... voila!!!! I ****** up again he says.

In case your wondering what "I ****** up again" means. He cheated on me years before and I left him for that. He never learned

Answer 1

you are 'supposed' to return it if you leave.. but since he is a cheater i would keep it!

Answer 2

He gave it to you so its yours.

Cash it in if its worth anything.

Answer 3

You left him, you give back the ring.

Answer 4

you never learned neither...once a cheater always a cheater

Answer 5

Uhhh... he cheated on you!!!!   If you left him because of that, I would cash the sucker in!  Chump doesn't deserve you.

Answer 6

Cash it in... he screwed up!  Big Time... Not only that... he has wasted good years of your life.  You have followed him to the ends of the earth and uprooted your entire life for this man.

Cut your losses.  Cash in the ring!  Engagements are a gift of intent.  The wedding ring is the binding agreement.  You keep the gift of intent since he broke the deal.

Do not let one man controll your entire existence!  And never trust a man 100%.  It is just a few words of self preservation.

Good luck on your future endeavors.

Answer 7

I would just keep the ring. You might be able to use the jewels later for a necklace or something

Answer 8

Don't give that ring back, cheaters don't deserve anything, they get what coming to him. Good thing for him your not one of those girls who will s***w up all his ****.

Answer 9

I think that he left you. He called off the wedding so you are supposed to be able to keep the ring.  Besides that, you've been through enough being cheated on and moving to another country and deserve to make some money by selling it.  If you give it back to him then you're really being too nice - you've already taken too much c**p.  Sell it and get on with your life.

Answer 10

for the fact that he cheated on you cash it in, if it was over losss of love then give the ring back, but this guy cheated on you wasted your life by making you leave your job move to another country.... this is a rare case but i say cash it in !

Answer 11

You leave.. U return.. He leaves.. u cash it..

Answer 12

cash that sucker in baby...

u gave him a second chance and he screwed u over...

whatta jerk...pff....

sry...lol...;p

Answer 13

cash it in....its yours!

Answer 14

**** cash it in!! dont give it back!! he doesnt deserve it back if hes gonna go off and cheat on you. you have the right to cash it in if hes gonna go off and do that s***w him!

Answer 15

hmmm cash in in this case

Answer 16

i say u cash it in... he's an ****** for doin that to yoU!!! I HATE HOW MEN TREAT WOMEN IN THIS WORLD!!!

Answer 17

He called off the wedding so you are entitled to keep the ring!  Besides it serves him right for cheating!

Answer 18

SELL THE RING AND USE THE MONEY TO GO OUT FOR A NIGHT ON THE TOWN WITH YOU BEST GIRLFRIENDS!! Cheating b*****d!! You deserve better! :)

Answer 19

you shoudl not get mad because he cheated agen i mean let the anger be there but dont be mad because when you are angry you dont think the same as when your not. Id say just talk to him ask him to come and sit with you to talk. wheather it is a good talk or not will let you know if you should keep the ring, sell it or give it back.  But i sudgest no matter what you dont sell the ring or throw it away because no matter what happened there where some good times right  :)  plus you just dont want that on your counshess selling that ring fore some money that ring should mean more to you.

Answer 20

The ring is in exchange for the promise to marry, so typically it should go back.  However - he cheated and he is the one who messed up, so keep it.  That's my vote anyway...I don't know what a court of law would say!

Answer 21

You give the ring back

Answer 22

He's a cheater and I would keep it.

Answer 23

The ring is yours.  He called off the wedding. He cheated. He gave you the ring as a gift and it's been a year.  Keep it.

Answer 24

It all really depends on the law of the country. The ring could be legally his possession because he bought it, meaning that you could be jailed in a foreign country for theft. You really need to check the laws. If the law says that the ring was a gift, sell it.

Answer 25

Since he was a jerk, I say you cash it. If he had been a good guy and you just left him because you know, you didnt love him anymore, I'd say you give it back, but since you KNOW never deserved you, and wasnt good enough, I'd say cash it in and watch him cry.

Answer 26

give back the ring