I let the cat out of the bag concerning my daughter's abusive teacher, what next?

Question

I'm not one of those parents who thinks their child is a perfect angel, far from it. But, I know my 8 year old daughter is pretty decent for her age. All this school year, she has been doing great. No behavior problems, good grades, etc.

The last few weeks though she has been falling behind in her work and coming home from school very sad. The teacher has been giving the kids an immense amount of school work because the principal wants to see the workbooks done before school lets out. The teacher isn't very nice about this though and has been issuing threats to the kids who are not keeping up. In my opinion, it is the teacher's fault if she didn't schedule out the school year correctly.

The teacher has been under a lot of stress due to this situation and she has been taking it out on the children both physically and mentally.

In the last few weeks she has put her hands on 2 children that I know of, including my daughter.

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Answer 1

How can we remind ourselves what the issues are when you've made all your questions private? Where is this mysterious place "in Europe" that doesn't allow home schooling, and why didn't you just name it?

This just sounds extremely unlikely to me. Don't the kids date their work? It's going to be completely obvious to the principal if they haven't done enough the rest of the year.

If my child's teacher did this piling on the work, though, I'd go to the principal regardless of the physical things.

Answer 2

What about pulling her out of that school and sending her to a new one, where they treat the kids decently? If there's not another in the your catchment area, talk to the school board about this teacher's behaviour and have them deal with it. Or ask them if you can transfer your daughter to another school that is outside of your catchment area, but still close enough that she can walk to bus to school.

Good luck.

Answer 3

That is horrible. I would go directly to the Principal and lodge a complaint. If nothing is done i would take my child out of the school. Your child is obviously stressed about this situation and you need to do everything you can to help her feel safe and not threatened.

Answer 4

I don't know the laws in Germany, but have you gone to the principal or the school board to report his abusiviness?  He should not (in the USA) place his hands on a child in the matter you describe.  PERIOD.  He can and should be fired for his actions.  He WOULD get fired in the U.S. or have some serious consequences for what he did.

Answer 5

The teacher was very unproffesional by blaming the child for the situation.

If i was you i would go and see the head teacher about the situation as this may lead to there being a resolve.

If all else fails i would pull her out of that school and place her in anougth, i wouldnt do this lightly as this can be stressful for the child but if you feel that the stress she is getting and would get at school it to bad for her to have to deal with the best thing in my opinon would be to place her in another school as she should be happy and relaxed in her class enviroment.

good luck with what ever you and your little girl decide to do.

Answer 6

Ouch thats a tough sittuation, its good that the problem has been adressed but now the teacher may hold a grudge against your daughter :(   have you talked to the principal about this?  I would advise you to get as many parents as you can to come together an adress this to the principal.  Is there any way you can switch teachers?  Im sure if you compain enough you can hopefully... also are there any other schools that she can go to?  GL to her and you.

Answer 7

Talk to the dean. Let hi know you understand that the work needs to be done. But tell him that the teacher is the one who waited until the last min, and is now verbally and physically harassing the children. Explain that you understand that when a person is under a lot of stress they tend to release it in certain ways, but as an authority figure, and teacher, she needs to learn to control it. There are much better ways of dealings with things, like going out side the class room for a few mins in order to take a few deep breaths and relax. Walking while the kids are at PE or under another teachers supervision, or just simply ignoring it. If talking with the dean/principle doesn't work I would go above them (in the US it's called school board) and report it. Keep going up the ladder until some one pays attention and does something about it. Also if you can get other parents behind you on the issue it might be noticed faster because they will see it's not one parent who might be over reacting.  No child should be afraid of what there teacher might do to them.

Answer 8

call the police what she is doing to your child she is doing to some other kids

Answer 9

You need to go the school board about this and also tell the other parents of the children that are also victims. I was in your shoes once and my child had to receive counseling for this