I like a gurl i told her cuzins,nd her father,my bestfriend but i dnt kno how to tell her?

Question

I love this gurl...we...had a thing going on...we..would touch eatch other in the bed...we would say i love you to each other....she told me that she would walk 1000 miles to see me...she...says that she loves me alot...and shes not afraid to show it...i love her with all my heart...so bacialy i want her to be my every thing...but when people say dat i like her...she says shes not that way...i wasnt that way untill i met her...shes always on my mind...she took my heart and ran with it...i want to tell her that i think we should be a couple...all the guys she went out with...played her...used her...i wont use her...i will love her...so now her father...is saying that i should tell her and my mum...but if...i tell my mum...it would be all h**l...nd if her mum finds outt shes g*y...she would be thrown around like a rag doll...idk....but i love her soo much...i just want to cuddle up...but WAT SHOULD I DO??

Answer 1

She is either a remarkably affectionate straight girl, or -- as I suspect -- a bisexual or L*****n girl who is finding it hard to admit the truth to herself.

Touching in bed...does that mean caressing romantically and genitally, or does that mean platonic cuddling?

But either way, if she loves you this much, don't be afraid to share your feelings, and perhaps even suggest that you become a couple.

If she continues to say she is neither L*****n nor bi, you will have no choice but to accept that and to realize she is just a wonderfully affectionate friend.  Take that for what it is an enjoy it!

On the other hand, she may realize that she feels just the same way, and that would be delightful for you both.

In either scenario, do *not* come out to either of your mothers.  Partly because your dear sweet friend is not yet committed to you, so there is no reason to come out anyway -- that would be premature.  But in any case, your moms are just not ready for this.

If your friend is in love with you, keep this quiet from your mums until either (a) you two are able to get a place of your own, or (b) your mums change their homophobic attitudes.

But a good friend should be able to share such feelings...talk to her.