I like a guy i dont get along with i need advice/help please help me?

Question

i am neighbors with him he is my grade and we are both 12 he has lived there for 5 years were are both going into 7th grade for the first year and a half we got along because he was really nice and fun but we got in a fight and havent talked to each other in 3 years i dont talk to him he asks me for gum sometimes but we hate each other we are enimes but i kinda like him what should i do ( we dont talk to each other AT ALL)what do i talk to him about in a convo he is a popular kid who everybody knows but also all the girls hate him i hate him too but at the same time i wanna keep looking at him on the bus he like to i guess show off in front of everybody we r both the sport kids people say we r the same person we both love socer,golden retreivers,giants(football),cooking,base... so around all my friends i have to say i hate him i do but i also think he is like a kinda cute also i dont know if he wants to be friends with me i hate him but i also kinda like him i didnt start really liking him untill this year when he was in my gym class during the football part of the year( i suck at football )but he is kinda good he said" wow you really suck and you say your good at sports" and i just said "go get a f**king life" that is actually what i would say nice laguage is between me and him and i really want to be mean at him at those kinda moments were he embaresses me in front of all my guy friends but i just kinda cant we are going to start school soon on september 3rd and we are not friends so i dont know if i have classes with him and if i do i want to know like what i should do i like to show off a little in front of him for some reason what does that mean i always show off infront of everybody but when i am infront of him i have to be like perfect for some reason

SORRY IT IS LONG

Answer 1

ok ok ok .... to begin with baby girl YOUR 12 YEARS OLD... shouldnt u be worried about somethingz better than a boy... hmmm... either way i was a little girl once so ima let you know my advice... be the smarter and bigger person, stop fooling around,   your still a kid and should be having fun.. not stressing.. so just be u and if he likes it GREAT if not forget him...

oh and please do your homework...  

Answer 2

do whatever ur heart desires and feels.

Answer 3

Well, Its sounds like a two way crush. That has been going on for three years. You guys got mad and ignored each other ever since. That is a love-hate relationship if you ask me. Try being nice to him. Maybe he'll be nice back. If not he's a jerk.

Answer 4

Your only 12 to early to think about relationships I'm 15 and haven't even thought about a relationship not until i finish studying  there are plenty more fish in the sea

Answer 5

You don't say what specifically people hate about this guy, but he seems very confident and a show off--even mean, since he openly criticizes you in public.  I think you love the idea of having this "bad boy" interested in you--taming him, so to speak.  That's very common among young girls, but it never works out.  It always leads to heartache, but I get the feeling that knowing this isn't going to change your mind.

If you want to open the lines of communication, the only clue you provide is when he hits you up for gum.  (He's using you, you know.)  Still, if you MUST get his attention, then buy a bag of his favorite gum  and give it to him.  That will surprise him and be a nice gesture on your part.  Say something clever but not mean and not gushy.  Try this: "Here,  This is my gift to you, from one neighbor to another.  This should get you through the first semester."   Then turn and walk away.  You'll be lucky if you get a simple, "Thanks."  Then, wait for him to approach you and make the next move.  Don't gaze at him from afar or pretend to hate him, either.  Just be kind, friendly and approachable--not overly anxious, but confident and secure in who you are.  

If you can think of a witty comeback when he insults you, he'll be less apt to do it anymore.  For example, when he says you "suck" at sports, just say, "Hey, this is YOUR game, not mine.  You let ME pick the sport and we'll see who really sucks."  Be forewarned, though, he may accept your challenge, so be ready.  Either way, that increases the interaction between you as long as you keep it a friendly competition.  You could even bet on who wins.  The winner has to buy lunch for the other one or carry the other one's books at school for a day.

By the way, you don't HAVE to pretend to hate him around your friends; you CHOOSE to because you're AFRAID of how it will  make you look in their eyes.  You need to work on being yourself.

And stop using profanity if you ever hope to be respected.