I like a guy that did drugs! please help me.!?

Question

well i just started liking him. theres no way im telling my friends and you'll see why if u read all of this.

last year, he got kicked out of school for doing speed (a type of drug) and other drugs. i am 100% against that but theres something about him that makes me happy and shy around him. he is back at our school this year. and i secretly think hes really hot and sweet and stuff. hes a little more popular than me so i kinda feel like a nerd talking to himor being around him.

one more thing, he has a girlfriend, shes nothing special...they definitely dont belong together so im not worries. but of course when i see them kiss a get a little jealous.

i think he might like me but probly nott.

i feel like he secretly likes me but he might just be a big flirt.

what do u think?

what should i do?

tell my friends, not tell my friends?

do u think i am stupid for liking him?

just share ur thought pleesee!

Answer 1

You all shouldn't be so quick to judge.. just because a person has done drugs before doesn't make them a bad person or even mean he does them on a regular basis.. we all make mistakes. Just have an open mind and get to know him without any preconceived notions..  

Answer 2

If you like a guy who did drugs, expect him to do it again. You won't make a difference. What makes you think he will genuinely like  you and change for you?  

Answer 3

YOU CAN NOT CHANGE DRUG ADDICTION! the only person who can change that is yourself and speed can make not a dam other thing matter. If you are not close to him how the heck do you know he is not using anymore.

Second you show never say wow that guys cute i can change him and make him what i want. People are who they are and no one should try to mold them into something they are not.  

Answer 4

bad juju all around.

• drugs are never something to easily get over. he was into them bad enough to get kicked out...his chances of relapsing are high, esp now that he's back in the same atmosphere as when he was doing them before. it's not that he's a low-life druggie passing out in the gutter after getting a hook-up...but he is facing a pretty hard thing to conquer.

• do NOT ever go into a relationship thinking you or your love can change them or make them better or work to keep them okay. it can't, and that is DOUBLY true when it comes to someone facing issues with drugs or alcohol.

• he's got a girlfriend. whether or not you think they are good together is irrelevant. if he's kissing her, he thinks they're just fine together. and if he dumps her for you, or starts to see you at the same time, he may eventually do that to you with someone else too. what he'll do to one person for you, he'll won't feel bad doing to you for someone else.

i don't think you're stupid to like him - the heart has its own mind sometimes and we can't really help who we have feelings for. but given the knocks against this actually working out, i'd suggest you not let it get any further and set your attention elsewhere. out there is someone who makes you feel all happy-shy-giddy about, who is healthy, free and available to feel the same way about you. this guy isn't it.

Answer 5

   First of all, I'm glad you see him as a person and not a "druggy"

  But you have to watch out for the trap of falling for the "bad boy" because you believe you can change him.

   You cannot change someone. You can support them getting through bad habits, but you yourself cannot get someone to do or stop doing something.

I think you should just see how things fall. He could be a big flirt or he may like you. Only time will really tell.

Thing you want to ask yourself though, if he does leave his girlfriend for you, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same to you if you were dating him.

Sorry to be such a debbie downer but I think these are some things you should think about,

Answer 6

you aren't stupid for liking him...

but a guy that does speed?!! are you kidding...run girl, go find someone worthy of your adoration