I like a teacher?

Question

Okay, he's not actually one of my teachers that teaches me any of my subjects. I met him last year when my friend introduced me to him and he's such a funny guy. We never talked after that since it was near the holidays. But, now this year I've fallen for him again, hard. He's so cute and handsome. He seems like a great teacher also since everybody speaks fondly of him. Lately, I think he's returning my feelings like lately he has been around alot. I see him everywhere now like during class at lunch times even after school! When I'm outside the library he would usually stay out there until I enter and go to my class. He would exit his classroom many times always walking past me. He comes to my class even when his class is down below! I want to approach him but I don't know what to do. I have strong feelings for him and think he would be a guy I'd date outside of school teacher or not. Oh and 'm 15 he's in his 20s.

Answer 1

I think that is against the law isn't it? LOL

Answer 2

...."Oh and 'm 15 he's in his 20s."

I'd give it about 3 years first....if i were him

Answer 3

O f all the problems on earth, love is probably the most difficult to tackle and address. Because in this matter, the elders are more used to the problem, does in no way make them more eligible to tackle it in a true way.

Society makes set rules which are constantly broken. Because love is an infinite ocean .

However , for the moment it is better to maintain a platonic love. At the age of 15, boys are not  very mature, but as nature has made girls, they understand things far better.

I am giving you a long answer in general that I communicated with some one :

My Dear ------ ,

This is a problem that every man and every woman faces in life. This needs to be analysed calmly and dispassionately; 1) How we, both women and men are psychologically made,

2) How evolutionary forces in Nature gathered to form this thing called man,

3) How much is he as yet a part of animal nature and how much of higher principles, and what experiment if any, Nature is trying to make through this device.

Man is a creation of the middle world. Here both the higher , godly forces, and the forces of darkness, the asuras, the titans are ever in locked-horns and are eternally waging a war to gain supremacy to make man their chief instrument and agent in this battlefield. Man is an ephemeral, transient and weak creature to be made the main instrument for this giant war-fare, far beyond his earthly weak nature, and earthly, dirty and chaotic substance.

It is poetically said that God expresses himself through, -

' The strength of a man, in the beauty of a woman,

In the laugh of a boy , in the blush of a girl, '

Thus, from a certain point of view, if your boy-friend, were to see and appreciate the beauty of two different flowers , two creepers, two trees or two birds you certainly would not object. So why would you object if he is looking at the beauty in another girl or a woman? Because when he sees the beauty of these other things, there is no attachments or physical sexuality involved .

In this game or war-fare, the intellegence or God has thrown a stone of love in the calm pool. This stone-love creates its ripples at every level as it goes to manifest. In the psychic it expresses as true and pure love, pure beatitude that wants to give itself totally, there is no counter demand, - you just love for the sake of love. When that ripple reches to the mental level, the love wants to understand, to comprhend, to know - be the torch-light of true knowledge. Next at the vital or life level, it tries to vilently possess by force, and here that ripple of love becomes god the power. Finally at the physical level that stone,that ripple of love expresses itself as beauty. There is no proper cohesion or harmony at the various levels, and as a result starts the conflict.

At the lower end due to the above, there are three masculine defects that have emerged in nature :

1) A man is physically more sexual than a woaman.

2) A man is egoistic and wants to possess.

3) A man is physically tamasic and lazy, and does not like to do house-hold works and other menial jobs.

Similarly, there are three complimentary feminine-defects.

1) A woman is vitally more sexual than a man.

2) A woman's ego is a passive type and wants to be possessed.

3) A woman likes to have a feeling of being pregnant and have a child in the stomach.

Thus this boy-friend of yours is not only immature but he is also egoistically arrogant, he knows he should not behave in a civilised society in the way he is behaving, though it may be perfectly true that you also a little or more jealous because of your vital sexuality.

I had read in Reader's Digest,

A woman tells her friend, ' You know, my husband is a great lover. He keeps on looking at every beautiful woman that passes by.'

in either way it does not matter, whether you keep up the relation or drop him, (ie. if your nature is being able to), but truly love him , because god is infinite love.

The idea of virginity is prevalent among women and not men. Nobody has heard of a man being virgin, - maintaining the purity of his body, because as I said man is physically more sexual than a woman. Nature has given us this method for procreation, rather gross and crude ; it is your duty as a girl and woman to control in this regard your boy-friend with quietness and as a mature person without much hate and rancune.

Wishing you the best in your success,

Yours truly, Srikant.

Answer 4

Yea I agree with everyone, wait until you are out of school to see if these feelings are still there. If they are, try to see if he really feels the same way.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I'm crushing on a teacher from the school i just left this year. And then my brother brought him over for dinner, and it was killing me. But that doesn't change the fact it's against the law, and neither of the guys we like are legally available. So, it's best if you just let your feelings go. If it's meant to be, it will still be meant to be in 3 years. =]

Answer 6

Wake up girl! He is an adult, you are still a minor.

You REALLY need to find someone your own age. Stop pursuing this man. If he has any type of feelings for you, it could ruin his career. If he acted on those feelings, it could put him in jail.

Answer 7

Stay completely away from him.  A relationship with you would be ILLEGAL for him.

Answer 8

Like everyone else has said, you should wait to pursue a romantic relationship with this guy. That doesn't mean that you can't be friends until that time comes though.

Answer 9

Obviously you've given little-to-absolutely no thought to the ramifications of this.  Chances are you're imagining his returning your feelings - I certainly hope this is the product of a schoolgirl's imagination - but in the event that it isn't.........

You can read, can't you?  So you've seen the newspapers and read the headlines of the many stories of situations like this and what happens when little girls like yourself find themselves humiliated by the rumors and accusations and public embarassment, and the teachers - who should know better - are also publicly embarassed and humiliated, and usually fired,  and sometimes even jailed, for engaging in such relationships?  

15's a little young to be burdened with the knowledge that you've ruined a "great" teacher's career, don'cha think?!?

Still think this is a great idea?

Think again - this isn't some TV sitcom with background music and a romantic script with a laugh track.  This is real life - and you're about to ruin yours AND his.

Answer 10

I think the age difference is a little large, so until you wait afew years, nothing can.

Knowing that nothing will happen between you should help you get over him. Try focusing on boys more your age, or maybe just afew years older.

Answer 11

umm no offense but thats against the law dude you need to come back in 3 years then say hey unless you want him approached by bigger guys in jail telling him so sad that you dropped the soap let me help you get that

Answer 12

yea i don't think getting him fired is a great I love you gesture.... Atleast wait til your out of that school to do anything