I like someone who is 10 years older than me im 15 and we're both female?

Question

the problems that i have is she is engaged, and not to mention the assistant manager of where we both work!

when we close together she takes me home and we sit in her car and talk for hours and we smile at each other through the night like at work and she always finds someway to touch me (not like that) and i find that i always find an excuse to touch her aswell (not like that) and then when i dont see her for a few days i really miss being with her. and then the other night at work she goes to me you'll stay back for me cos you love me so of course i said yeah i will stay back. and i also find i always stare at her and she does the same and i dnt know what to do. the other day i grabed her around the waist i really like her but shes engaged and i dnt know what to do HELP

like i really like like her and i feel that i can't get over it because when im with her i can be myself and just be relaxed and not need to impress her or anything because shes just so outgoing and will listen to anything.

she also uses pet names heaps such as hunni, babe etc

i don't like her....................... i love her

Answer 1

its not ok...your a child, she's an adult. By the way...isnt this like the 7th time you've asked this very same question??

Answer 2

I can relate well to your query given relatives and friends of mine are g*y/lesbians. First of all, issues require separating in order for you to see clearly what is occurring [for you and by you].

You may have a current need for a close special friend in your life at present, as opposed to having your first love affair, with that close special friend you have been drawn to in your workplace. You need a qualified counsellor to assist you in this area.  Questions as to whether you have felt this way previously over the past 12 months, your background/childhood, many issues, gender roles played, all sorts of things natural and normal for you to consider before jumping in and declaring your love to this woman.

It is irrelevant as to whether or not this young woman is engaged.  She will make her own decision on whether or not she wishes to strike up a relationship with another female. However, any person undertaking sexual relations with a teenager under the age of 16yrs is breaking the law.  You would both need to wait another year regardless of the feelings both ways; lawfully, morally/socially/family interaction.

I would never jeopardise your job at work by telling her or any other person of your feelings. Ensure she does not become physical, only to let you down devastatingly with you at such a young age and if your first time involved with another female.  

Rather, stay in touch by phone, lunches, coffees, email, at other times, and sit back over the next few months, to see if this woman marries her fiancee.  You have your whole wonderful life ahead of you and you will meet many girls, women, and others to build special relationships with in the meantime until after you turn 16yrs.  I have been around friends of my 17yr old daughter and every now and then a bisexual girl presents herself experimenting with her close friends she likes very much.  

The problems with young girls experimenting and starting out in relationships of same genders is that many young girls are heartbroken when their girlfriend takes off with a guy.  Be very careful as one thinks they are able to handle the after effects but not so in many cases.  Depression sets in and suicidal thoughts can also set in afterwards.  

Unfortunately there still exists a social stigma in many cities and towns relating to lesbians.  You need some counselling [perhaps by a L*****n] to find out issues to be made aware of in this situation [now rather than later].  Ring the L*****n/g*y hotlines and they will talk through with you.  Best of wishes and may you be happy through life.  

Answer 3

So you like her.  What are you trying to accomplish here?  You said she's engaged.  I'm not sure if she's engaged to a woman or a man, but she's still ENGAGED!  Don't be a home wrecker.  So she finds someway to touch you, lots of people are like that.  I have a friend that very touch feely with people but she's not trying to make a move on them nor is showing interest in that way.  She's just a really affectionate person.  My best friend also calls everyone hunni and babe and other pet names.  We are both straight and she calls me hunni.  That's just her personality type.  She probably just thinks you are a good friend of hers.  And g*y, staight, bi, doesn't matter, it's illegal to have any kind of sexual relationship with a minor and you're a minor.  You're young and still learning about life and yourself.  She's 25 and in a relationship.  Regardless of how she feels about you, you should have the common decency to back the f@*& off.  How would you feel if you were the one in a relationship with her and someone else was making the moves on her.  You're be pissed off right?  Oh and another point is that it is ok to have a girl crush and not be g*y.  I'm not sure how confiedent you are in your sexuality, but it's just a crush.  Get over and start acting like a professional.  Work is not a time to meet your significant other, its a time in which you receive compensation to complete certain task for this employer.  And last;y, work relationships almost always have problems.  I dated someone I worked with and when we stopped dating it was a disater.        

Answer 4

Leave her alone.

Whether she's male OR female, she's 10 years older than you and for one, if she's even coming on to you like you're mentioning (unless it's all in your head, which no offense I think most of it is), you need to just let her be.  She's an authoritative figure at where you , and while I don't know your company policy, it could be that work relationships aren't allowed. Then again, you shouldn't want one with her because she's already engaged (to a man).  She could be just teasing you.  I know female friends of mine who call each other names like, "sweetheart" or "sweetz" or "boo" but it's just because we're FRIENDS. Females tend to do that whether they're L*****n or not...it's just how we are. I think you need to drop it asap.

Answer 5

Don't be g*y! Find guys that you like, in YOUR grade!

Answer 6

well u shouldn't like some1 who's 10 years older than u.not to mention engaged and u're still illegal.what do u expect leave her fiance for u?that's just crazy.

Answer 7

Enjoy looking, but think about these things:

1.  You don't want to be a homewrecker already, and that's what you'll be if you somehow manage to end this engagement.

2.  If she gets with you, it is an abuse of her power as your boss.  Dating between bosses and employees is probably not allowed by the company.

3.  If she gets with you, it is statutory rape on her part.  Yes, you like her, but there are laws protecting teens from adults who would take advantage of them for a reason.

What you are doing--what all teenagers do--is developing, like, a template for the kind of person you want to be with in the future.  You're learning something about yourself with this crush.  You know your taste.  That's good, too.   Soon, girls closer to your age will start coming out and looking better.

Answer 8

aww.. well is she a lezbian or bi too?  

Answer 9

Well I am sorry to say, but love doesnt beat the Law hun, In America assuming that is where your from, it would be considered statutory rape if you guys were to do anything like s*x. The legal age for consent is 16. Not 15 and 1 month left. Well It prob wont work, cuz she is engaged. but she prob knows. maybe you should tell her all your feelings, come out to her. She more then likly will understand. ect. Just remember this all as a great experience. your still young and lot of people to find out there. Learn to let go and live, instead of hold on and slowly wither away.

Answer 10

OMG can we say obessed!?!?  Dude, you sooooo need to back off it, it's starting to look a little stalkerish.  First of all you've asked this question like 5 times and almost 99% all say you need to stop and get over it.  I'm sorry sweetie, but the hope you are hanging onto to get answers saying shes in love with you is totally rediculous.  You need to let it go.  It's not healthy anymore.  Having a crush on someone older is fine.  I was totally in love with Brad Pitt for years when I was your age, but it was just a fantasy.  It will never happen and that's what you need to understand out this situation.  She make like the attention she gets from you because if you as obessed as you appear to be I'm sure you show her the utmost attention, but she's an adult and you're a teenager.  And it's totally illegal to be with you.  Also you're comment that she calls you hunni and babe, etc doesn't mean jack.  I call people sweetie and other pet names.  It's probably a park of her personality.  I'm 28 and I've had guys read too much into it and it's annoying because it's just me.   And the touch feely thing again is probably just her being a really friendly personality.  If for some strange reason she really is into you (like that sick teacher and her student thing) you need to let her make the move not you, otherwise you very well could get the emarassment of a lifetime.  Best best, accept it as a crush and let it go.  No one says you can't be friends with her, but if you can't contain yourself better just leave it alone and walk away.  Besides, if I was her fiance and I found out you were all obessed with her and stuff, I most likely would kick your a$$.  Be careful, you're treading on some pretty unstable ground.

Answer 11

Ask her if you can chat. Tell her that you really need to unload. Tell her how you feel, get a bit emotional she wont be mad if you cry then see what happens

Answer 12

You need to figure out just how much you like her, as well as how much she loves the person she's engaged to.  (Not to mention whether she's actually interested in women in that way, at all.)  If you reveal to her that you're that interested, and she does not return the same sorts of feelings (either because she's madly in love with another, or just not bisexual), it will hurt a lot.  Preparation makes that a *little* easier to cope with, but it'll still be really hard.

Also, you should look into her actions - do they appear like those of someone who likes another person deeply, or are they just the actions of an outgoing individual?  You need to work out whether or not you're misinterpreting her in any way - I know that it'll be a difficult thing to consider, but if you are, you're going to get a shock when she explains how she sees the situation (and how it's different to how you see it.)

In short: It's probably best to not act upon anything yet.  Study it, try to see things through her eyes, as well as yours.  Good luck!  :)