I like this goth guy at school but....?

Question

I am not goth. I'm not preppy either, but I'm more into rap, r&b, and that kind of stuff. I just started a new school way different from my old one. I have sort of made friends with this goth guy named "James." He's incredibly nice and he's so adorable. He's goth, not emo btw. I was really reluctant to sit with him in class at first, but I had to b/c of assigned seating. He's not like I thought he would be. He's smart, kind, politically aware, and many qualities that I admire in a guy. Anyway, I am trying not to stereotype him anymore. I can't stop thinking about him. I really think that I have feelings for him.

Today I ended up being behind him in the hall. I got lost in thought and just looked at him and his perfect features. I got lost in a trance looking his dyed blonde hair when he suddenly turned around at me like he had seen me the whole time. How could he have? I tried to shrug off my trance but he looked at me with a slightly sad look on his face and said "That's okay." and turned the corner. He said it so softly too, not in an emo way.

What does that mean? I know he was talking to me. Does he think I don't like him? How should I react in school tomorrow? I'm confused. Also, should I ask him out? Will it work out? Any advice is appreciated just don't be mean or critical please

Answer 1

When you feel like the time is right to confront him of your feelings, go for it. seriously, some guys don't like people who beat around the bush. Is he the kind of person who likes straight up honesty, or is kinda timid. Basically, what I'm trying to say is, you shouldn't be ashamed of your feelings, they are YOUR feelings, and nothing is wrong with them. If you're confident about leveling with him, explain to him your feelings and whatnot, but tell him that if he doesn't feel the same, to please not be weirded out, because you'll be ok with being friends. If that happens, then just be patient for him. He may not even realize he likes you either, but don't wait around forever for him.

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Answer 2

If he said that then he definitely likes you back. He was obviously reading body language and thought that by you shrugging it off that you don't like him back. When you see him flirt up a storm. And make it obvious that you like him to build his confidence. Otherwise he may not think you really like him. And then ask him out after that. So that way he doesn't think it is out of pity.

Answer 3

lmao! I felt like I was reading a book when I read your question, especially that middle paragraph! Anyway, I think I've felt the way you have. The guy you really don't think looks all that good but when you really take a look and notice him and get closer, you find he looks great and he is wonderful. Honestly, didn't go all that well for me. LoL! But there is a much bigger difference between you and me. I am a guy and ur a girl. The guy I liked was str8 of course. Haha!

Anyway, why don't you just ask for his number in a friendly way. Just a casual way like 'OMG! give me your number. I HAVE to call you about this show tonight or such and such" Make it friendly!

Answer 4

go to school dressed up like a gargoyle perhaps this will arouse him and then you two can perform some sort of blood ritual and f**k like frantic wombats.  

Answer 5

I would personally commune with nature and discover its beauty. It will inspire a trip to europe. Hope this helps your day to day life.

Answer 6

Wow! It's like we come from the same place! Yes, ask him out! You never know. I went to this school, and yes i was new as well. I like this really popular guy. He was everything. And i never thought we would go out, but we did. So dont be shy! And it seems like he likes you too. That was so romantic to read.

>.< good luck !  

Answer 7

Go for it! do what you think is best

is he also a L*****n, g*y, Bisexual, and Transgendered

Answer 8

I would just act normal with him. Get his number or give him yours (if you're afraid of being too forward) and see if he wants to hang out sometime. Maybe a movie or dinner?

Gothic guys are pretty cool, actually the ones I've known have been very loving, kind and intelligent. They just dress a bit different :)  

Answer 9

Maybe he thought you were staring at him b/c u didn't like him. You should flirt with him and see his reaction.

By the way Timothy Vondeezer, you are an *** hole. I think that she stereotyped him at first, but then felt really bad about it I mean look at, "He's not like I thought he would be...I'M NOT TRYING TO STEREOTYPE HIM ANYMORE..." and all the other nice things she said about him. We all make mistakes. I think she realizes that she was wrong and feels really guilty. Obviously that bothered her or she wouldn't have posted this question. F*** Off. I hope everything goes well with your situation Mi Canelita

Answer 10

You barely know the guy! Don't ask him out yet!

get to know him first, but not in the "I want to be your friend" way, but in the "I flirting with you and trying to make it obvious" way (laugh at stuff he says, touch him for no reason, be really bubbly)..THEN ask him out.

try flirting with him, it will be obvious if he flirts back..if he does, go for it, if not, then just try to be his friend.