I live in a sexless marriage?

Question

I have tried talking to my wife about it with little success and now if i dare mention it she turns her back on me. I am getting so depressed and frustrated about it and don't know who to talk to anymore. I have thought of prostitutes,an affair but because i live in a small town none of these options are available. Has anyone got any advice?

Answer 1

oo you married a fat house cat, i feel really sorry for you, dude try meeting other girls becase your wife will never enjoy s*x and if you ever have s*x whith her she will do it as a duty.

Answer 2

???..and you think you have it bad ??...man I am single !!! and I also live in a sexless life!!!...see?...lol....feeling better now ?...lol

Answer 3

If it is at all possible, see a marriage therapist. Usually, there is an underlying problem, such as a communication issue; as women often see s*x as a form of communicating.

If there are other problems in the marriage, that is probably why she does not want to get intimate.

Above all, you need to talk to your wife about how this is making you feel. Be honest!

& good luck

Answer 4

Why dont you find out why she doesnt want to have s*x and then work on her problem? You little boys are all the same.... All you can think of is s*x s*x s*x and justify affairs and p**n addiction. You are pathetic. How about instead of moping around wondering why you dont get any, how about you talk to her about what shes feeling? Maybe shes depressed, maybe something else is wrong. Maybe its something small like you dont help out around the house enough. Anything could be the reason! How about putting the time you spend looking for hookers into helping your wife? Lord.... Is it really that hard?

Answer 5

me too....but we are happy with each other....so, sorry for you. You could try your hand. You could try figuring out what is wrong with your wife that she doesn't want to have s*x with you...if that is the problem. Cheating on her isn't going to 'fix' anything. First you must try to work on your marriage.

Answer 6

Plain and simple:  Find out what she likes in bed.  She will then return the favor.  Also, make time for s*x.  Don't listen to her excuses about being tired, having a headache, having her period, etc.  

Whatever you do, don't cheat on her.  The grass is not greener on the other side.  She would find out about the affair.  Then you will find that you are even getting less s*x than before.  

Answer 7

Get a divorce she is cheating on you and getting it somewhere else.

Do not make the same mistake of getting married again!

Now you are going to have to pay child support *if u have kids*

You will now learn why divorce is so expensive!

Because its the best d**n thing one can do!

Answer 8

So do I, but it's due to medical problems. Have you tried masturbating? It feels just as good, if not better. Try a marriage counselor, if she won't go with you, go without her. Other than that, I'm afraid Divorce is your only way out.  

Answer 9

I also live in a sexless marriage and I haven't read the other answers posted, but I am going to be honest with you most women only have s*x with one man and if she is having s*x with someone else she isn't going to have s*x with you. I speak from experience on this one.

Answer 10

don't stay with her if you're that unhappy, it sounds like she doesn't even care.  

Answer 11

do not cheat on her, thats absurd.

tell her how you feel!

straight up tell her you want s*x.

you guys are married, i've never heard of a marriage with out s*x.

Answer 12

Looks like you're SOL. Prostitutes, or an affair would be a good idea. Also, tell her if she doesn't put out, you're leaving her.

Answer 13

First question: How old is your wife?  Hormone levels in women fluctuate as we age, love, and it could be due to a chemical imbalance, Menopause can strike as early as the late 20s.

Second: What is her current physical state like?  Has she recently gained/lost weight, been fatigued, or had an appetite change? Thyroid problems and diabetes are prevalent in females, as well as fibromyalgia, migraines, and a host of others.

Third: What is her MENTAL state like recently?  Depression can mask itself in many forms, and she may no longer feel beautiful enough, or worthy enough for your love.

Fourth: What is YOUR health like? If your diet contains a lot of strong foods (onions, garlic), or a lot of red meat, you could be producing phermones that repel, rather than attract.  Go for more green, leafy vegetables, try breath mints, share a bath before s*x, etc.

Fifth: How romantic are you towards her, ON A DAILY basis?  We women have it hard too, with children, work stress, housekeeping, etc.  We need to know, IN ACTION, that we are loved.  When is the last time YOU cooked for her, brought a rose, washed a dish?

If all these options fail to get to the root of the problem, then the sixth, and PROBABLY LEAST LIKELY answer is an affair.  NEVER assume this unless ALL OTHER methods fail.  Women, in general, do not cheat on their mates.

Answer 14

s*x therapi might work why she have to be so close about it did she get rape when she was lil or something idk while guess

Answer 15

Well Talk to ur wife and let her know how you feel! and be straight out with her by telling her that you will find another person that will do her job!   OR meabe she is upset about YOU! she is probably expecting you to go up to her and do what she wants you to do!!!!!

US AS WOMAN WHEN WE WANT SOMETHING SEXUALLY WE DON'T SAY ANYTHING WE RATHER GET UPSET AND TURN PUR BACKS TO IT!

-LUCK! DON'T CHEAT ON HER! YOU DON'T WANT TO GET AIDS OR ANY OTHER SEXUAL TRASMITTED INFECTIONS:

Answer 16

if you're not getting any s*x I can't understand why you'd still be in this relationship

Answer 17

well i have heard that if you have a TV in your room that you should get rid of it, i dont think that you should hire one to do that but you should talk to her about it, if you try masturbating together you may get into it a bit more and if you massage her she will love that and that make us feel relaxed and we will be more likely do have s*x with our parters, try looking up a tv show called 's*x after marriage' that will hopfuly halp you and your wife/ partner.

i hope i have helped  

Answer 18

First of all u do not mention how long u have been married for and the reason this is important cuz it tells us if u really know ur wife (in the sense if she has had any bad experience in the past). Do you have any kids? Dont get depress or frustrated & definetly Dont cheat on her especially with a prostitute there are so many diseases out there that if you were to get a disease u would not be able to live with yourself. The 1st thing that you need to do is come home from work with flowers (have you done this in the past) and let them be a just because I Love You guesture, If you have kids get a babysitter out of the house, go buy her a nice dress go out for dinner (or have a candle light dinner at home) have some drinks talk to her over dinner (not about s*x) a nice conversation about your marriage the good things about it, go for a walk at the park what i am trying to say be romatic and do something different from your ordinary lives women love to be pampered. It's not materialistic its about how you express your feelings towards her.

Answer 19

cheating if def not the answer, dint be a dumb ***. Its possible that she has some female hormone problems that she just doesn't feel like it. Maybe she feels like you dint think shes pretty or something. Whatever the reason you'd be better off going to a marriage counselor. Ask her to go with you, don't mention that its about s*x ir she'll get offensive. Stupid *** holes like you don't deserve to have wives if you are just going to cheat on them.  

Answer 20

Divorce.

Okay. Hear me out.

My mother tells me that s*x is like 80% of a good marriage. She's been divorced twice... the first was because the s*x was bad and he cheated as a result. She's still not over being cheated on though.

No s*x = someone isn't going to be happy.

You better lay it down to your woman and make her understand that you like s*x, you enjoy s*x with her, and you want her to have s*x with you. Tell her it's important to you, and that you're not happy.

Maybe even a therapist?

It's wrong that she would turn her back on you instead of talking it out, and if she continues with this attitude, I would seriously consider a divorce.

I hope it doesn't come down to that.

Answer 21

Tell your wife that s*x is really important to you.

Take her on a holiday.

Answer 22

Talk to her and see what she says. Maybe she has a medical issue. Get to a marriage counselor and talk about it. Good luck.  

Answer 23

you know what, in marriange, the person should be more important than the relationship itself.

Answer 24

Talk to her, ask her if she still finds u sexually appealing. You must tell this women, this marraige is about our happiness. Whatever I did to you baby I am sorry. You have to get that through her head that you still love her man. Afterall you did ask her for her hand in marraige right? I mean you might just need to be a little more romantic. Write her poetry tell her how beautiful she is. You just need to tell her, if she stil is a snob about it. You just ask what the h**l is wrong. Because thats something serious. When one person in a marriage is not happy usally it ends up in divorce. Now by knowing you married this women you deifently do not want that. So take your time, step by step and show tHAT WOMEN YOU LOVE HER! :)

Answer 25

Yeah possible. Some have sexfull marriage.

Answer 26

Please dont think of either of those as options. A marriage is hard, I know. And I also know that s*x is important to feel close in a relationship. Maybe you need to broach the topic differently with your wife. Tell her how much it hurts you when she turns her back on the subject and how important it is that you talk about it. If she still refuses, ask her if it is worth all you have together. You can not stay with her if you cheat on her - it is extremely immoral. But unless you are willing to have no s*x ever, maybe you can not be with her anyways. And maybe she needs to know that that is an option. If she doesnt care enough about your feelings to at least talk about something that serious, there is a bigger issue.

Answer 27

I'm in the same situation. I use to try to talk to my husband, but it didn't work. He was pretty much set in his ways and didn't want to listen. Because it wasn't important to him, he couldn't understand what I was going through. An affair doesn't solve the problem, it drives you further from your spouse. I've tried counseling and taking up new hobbies and through all of this he stays the same.  Eventually, it will be time for me to move on. Good luck, I feel your pain!