I live with my grandparents... and I do all the **** around the house?

Question

So I live with my grandparents and they are really controlling, I do everything around my house, and they still treat me like ****. I'm barely allowed to go anywhere. I am so sick of being treated like a maid. I never really get to see my boyfriend because of them and it really really pisses me off. I do everything so dont I deserve some respect?? Can someone give me some tips on this?

Answer 1

If ur 18 move out and get ur own place...........but if not talk to ur grandparents and tell them how u feel and if that don't work move out as soon as u turn 18

Answer 2

you have to understand where they are coming from. I grew up the same way. But you learn to deal and maybe just sit down and talk to them. Trust me you dont know how much they mean to you till they are gone forever. Just talk it out

Answer 3

get over yourself, do your chores and stop complaining about it.

Answer 4

My grandparents are worst than yours. Really bit me up for not doing the household chores.  And you know because they are very strict and the way I look at it when they left me their memories of how they taught me values and the cleaning around the house made me proud of myself because I have a clean house that everyone is proud of me. I'm married with 3 kids now) You wont regret if they teach you and letting you do the chores in the house.  In the future you will tell yourself how happy you are to be taught how to do the household chores. Just talk to them if you are already need to rest tell them You are tired and can you do it later or tomorrow.  No harm in trying to be honest with them rather sound disrespectful with the oldies, No offense lol. Wow you reminds me of my grandparents I missed how they pissed me off. Honestly I wanted to cry I owe the good values they taught and the words Clean. lol Girl love them you dont know when are they going to leave you. You know what I mean?  They deserve love and affection more from you.  

Answer 5

if i where u i would take off for a couple hours during the night to go  see my boyfriend and i would tell them that i would need some free time with my friends and hang out yea sure and curfew thats not that bad but if they dont pull through i ususally leave and try make them understand them when i come back hopefully they will understand where aim coming from

Answer 6

You do deserve some respect, but this may be the way that life was like for them when they were young. Do they like your bf? If not maybe they're trying to restrict the amount of time you spend with what they see as a bad influence. The final possibility is that your mum or dad (depending on which side they are your grandparents) was a bad kid. Talk to them about it and try making some compromises. If you want a nasty way ask them to start paying you.

Answer 7

Are they buying the food you eat?  Are they paying for the roof over your head?  Do they buy you clothes, give you birthday presents?  

What's your problem???   You owe them RESPECT because they are SUPPORTING YOU!!!!   I take it they could have kicked your *** out onto the street, but they haven't.  THEY DESERVE RESPECT FOR THAT!!!!!

when you are 18 and out of high school, you can work full time and then get your own place.  Then you have the freedom to do any damned thing you want.  But right now, BE GRATEFUL FOR A PLACE TO LIVE AND FOOD TO EAT!!!!

Answer 8

This sounds really tough, but i think you should maybe not do anything around the house and let them see, whats the worse they can do? If they beat you, and u really dont like them call police!! Or get a guidance councler! let them see, tell a friend, when u go school just talk to a guidance counsler! sorry couldn't really help you much! but hoped i helped a little!

good luck!

Answer 9

They seem to be pissed off at your parents and taking it out on you. because they have this responsibility. Talk to them about what's up?

Answer 10

I agree that you should be grateful to your grandparents for taking you in. On the other hand, you really need to make a bid for freedom.

A lot depends on your age and how trustworthy you have proven to your grandparents. They are probably worried that you might get involved with drugs, alcohol or s*x... and they are responsible for you until you are 18.

If you are at least 16, you can get a job after school... consider that. Even if they have to drop you off, that is fine. You can probably network a ride back home after work. Talk to your grandparents about that... they should be delighted that you have a work ethic. Ask them to help you establish a real savings account at a bank.

You can dress for the job and go to work, and if it just happens not to be your day to work, you can hang out with the BF. You are going to have to be slick.

Save your money if they won't help you get some wheels... you will need money in order to launch out of your grandparents' house. You will need money for deposits on an apartment and utilities. Shop the sales and start buying little household items for a "hope chest" for when you move out.

Also consider looking into vocational programs at your school... see if you can use that to fast-track into a paying career. See if you can get help with grants and scholarships.