I lost my baby at 22 weeks and 3 days! I feel so depressed!?

Question

It's going to be a month since I lost my baby...I had a stillborn...I feel so down, so sad, somehow losing the motivation to live.

I have tried ministering other women who went thru the same. I'm just wondering if I am doing the right thing?

I built a website as a medium of comfort for other moms who share the same tragic experience of losing a child.

Answer 1

it will take time to get over your loss.even though you m/c you still have the right to mourn,you lost your baby.i think you minstering women who have been through the same thing will help you and them.as time goes on your heart wont hurt so bad.

Answer 2

oh my goodness, I wish there was something i can say to make you feel better, but I know that is not possible. 22 weeks is more than halfway through!

Im very sorry for you, and I hope when and if you try again that everything works out for you.

Im 18 weeks pregnant and worry a lot about losing my baby, I know a stillbirth is still possible.

What was the cause, did they tell you?

Answer 3

((((BIG HUGS TO YOU))))

What you are doing right now, will help you through the grieving process, the support of other mums & dads is exactly what you need, because they know what it is like, and can share your pain... Dont lose the motivation to live, you are a strong woman, and will make it through this...

My thoughts and prayers are with you....

Answer 4

BE strong is nothing that you can do !!!!sorry for you loose ,i loose two i know is not eassy  ,there is nothing i cant say to make you feel beter.....you will be ok,...just think that your baby is in a beter  place..and that you have to beter for her. him every day!!!!

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for your loss. Make sure you give yourself all the time you need to grieve, and take comfort in your friends and family.

Do whatever you need to do to help yourself. I think your website is a good idea.

Answer 6

I had twins that were born at 22 weeks also. They had an problem called twin twin transfusion syndrome. They both passed away. It has been 7 years now, I still think of them everyday. What I do to help me is to remember the good times you had together, such as when I had an ultrasound and saw them, when I first felt them kick, things like that. They weren't all bad times, it just ended up different than we wanted. Your baby is ok and someday you will see the baby again in heaven- that is what I hope anyway- I can't wait. I do miss them- I won;t say it gets any easier because it doesn't, however you will learn to cope and to move on. You will still think of them and that's ok. I also did not want to live without my babies, but I got over that. Now I do have 3 beautiful boys and they were worth the wait. You will have a healthy baby someday- and no, having a new baby won't help you forget the baby you lost, but it does help you. It also helps me to talk to my babies in Heaven - maybe it seems crazy- but it helps to know they will always be a part of my life

Answer 7

I think your on the right track.....You just can't expect to fully recover from the loss of a child in one month, these things take a lot of time. Everyone greives differently so you have to do whats best for you but i think starting a support group or website are wonderful things to do, not only for yourself but to help others who unfortunately are dealing with the same pain you are.