I lost two children (miscarriage) and my husband wants to get fixed to avoid any further pain?

Question

I desperately want to have a child.

Answer 1

i think you and your husband need a well earn talk about this, i have had a baby and a miscarriage, so the misscarriage doesnt mean you cant carry, my mother-in law-to be had 4 miscariages before having my partner, whe she found out she was pregnant she went to a specialist which gave her steroid injections and she held the baby till full term, there are ways of preventing miscarriages sometimes so aslong as you discuss it with your doctor they will help, thats what they are there for! good luck xx

Answer 2

Ask him to wait awhile to see if his opinion changes over time.

Sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

This will cause problems in your marraige.

Tell him that this is very imporant to you.

Talk to a fertility specialist.

Decide.  Try again/ adopt/ give up?

Answer 4

tell him that u wanna have a child and tell him that u make the rules in ur houseand that ur not giving up hope!

Answer 5

You need to get him informed that miscarriages are common, and just because you had two doesn't mean you are unable to carry. Maybe you should see a fertility specialist, get informed.

Answer 6

you need to talk to him about how you feel. I have no idea personally about the pain you must have felt having a miscarriage but just because you have had 2 doesnt mean you cant have a baby. My mum had 3 miscarriages before she fell pregnant with my brother and then she had me 2 years later and she only had half on ovary to work with.  The doctor should be able to help you to check there is not a reason for the miscarriages.  I really hope your dream comes true for you but you need to make your husband understand why this is so important for you. Good Luck

Answer 7

I don't blame him, that's a lot to have been through!  Do you know the reason for your miscarriages?  Is it something medical that you could get help with?  I would sit down with my doctor/midwife and have a talk, weighing the pros and cons and figuring out what we could do before I would call it quits.

Answer 8

Don't do it! Just because you had a miscarriage doesnt mean you can't have a baby. It's Common. I know someone who had 4 miscarriages and now they have 2 beautiful baby boys.

Answer 9

Maybe you guys can get tested to see what the cause of you having miscarriages may be. My sister also had two miscarriages, and before that a still born. She and her hubby recently went and had blood drawn so that they can see what the cause may be which can be many reasons from chromosomal to not having enough progesterone. Once they get their result and if its something that is fixable then they will try yet again. So thats maybe something you and your hubby are interested in. Also after 2 miscarriages, your insurance company should pay for the testing. Luckily they do have an 11 year old daughter. Good Luck!!!