I love a married man?

Question

I have a relationship for over 2 years with a married man.We have met in my country and he told me he was married after about 4 months.I love him very much and although I wanted so many times to break up with him but every time he convinced to wait for him because he doesn't love anymore his wife and all he keeps him beside her are their children.He wants me to wait for him 2 years the time he needs to fix his problems and divorce her(as he says). But I'm very jealous and I can't stand the idea that I have to hide,that I can't spend every day with him.And I don't know if he keeps or not his promise.I'm afraid he will never let his wife for me.I know that this might sound crazy for some of you,but I don't want you to judge me.I am not the kind of woman who steals other women's men.I wouldn't stay in this relationship if he hadn't told me that there is nothing left between him and his wife.So I need an advice.Please tell me what can I do

Answer 1

It's the same old story time and time again. It will never happen with him. Don't waste anymore time being loyal to someone who can't even be loyal to his family. Here's whats going to happen, he probably will get divorced because a) his wife will find out, or b) marital issues.

But neither of those means he divorces her for you. Then, he'll say things like "I don't want to remarry". So again, you become just the booty call.  

Answer 2

Honestly speaking I hold no respect for men like him. He cheated on his wife and children. If you can't commit then why marry? Besides you never know if he cheats on you as well. Once a cheater is always a cheater. What if he divorce's her, however, he goes back for the sake of his children. You never know when the fatherly love will come out in him. What if your husband did that you, won't you be heartbroken. I'm not saying it's your fault, besides he shouldn't have hidden it from you for 4 months. It's not your fault you were attracted to him because he hid the fact that he was a married man with children. This man is not trustworthy, for some reason I feel like he's going to betray you. Forget about him, you'll find a better man than him.

Answer 3

Men lie all the time for s*x! Just remember you are no different from his wife and if he will cheat on her he will do the same thing to you!

Answer 4

Tell him to hurry up and dump his wife if he has no feelings for her then it shouldn't be a problem... Tell him he's basically cheating on you...cuz that's what he's doing...

Answer 5

Just remember, if he can cheat on his wife, he can cheat on you too.  Men will say anything to keep you  hanging on, and even he does leave his wife, which I doubt, he will leave you when something better comes along.

Answer 6

It only takes a couple of months to get a divorce. Why  would he get a divorce if he can get some on the side with no strings attached.  And yes you are 'that kind of woman'. You are a home wrecker. He is using you. Married men say all kinds of things to keep naive (or stupid) women to stay with them. Get some respect for yourself and find a man that is not married. Tell him to get lost until he gets that divorce.

Answer 7

You are being used and manipulated by a man you can never have!  Do you have any idea how many married men cheat on their wives and give them the same story that this man has given you......I don't love my wife anymore, I have to stay because of the children, I need time to work things out!  

If he truly wanted to be with you, he would be!  He'd find a way and make it happen.  Why would he change what he's doing now when he can have his cake and eat it too!  His affair with you, and probably good s*x that goes along with it are the icing on the cake to what he already has.

"I wouldn't stay in this relationship if he hadn't told me that there is nothing left between him and his wife".  Wake up!!!  What do you think he's going to tell you?.....that he is in love with his wife and has no intention of ever leaving her but would like some uncommitted s*x and fun on the side!!  Come on!!  You can't be that naive!

Every day you waste with him is a day you lose forever and never get back and you are isolating yourself from the opportunity to meet a good man who is free to love you.

Please have a read through the website I'm attaching!  It will be a rude awakening for you!  These articles are written by men who have women on the side!

http://www.privateaffairs.com/articlesin...