I love my girlfriend with all my heart, but i don't think she loves me the same. What should i do?

Question

I really love my girlfriend. She is my heart and soul. But she told me she doesnt believe me because so many people told her that already. I always try to make her love me even more but it doesnt help at all.

Oh yah and she told me that she has feeling for another guy but she still wants to be with me. Since i love her so much i really didnt care about that other guy, but for some reason i always picture her with that guy when im not with her. Speaking of that she came back from florida august 13 and i told her when she comes back we are going to spend some time together, at first she was with it, but when i would call her she would be like im doing something or she in trouble or something, and i still didnt see her till this day 8/19/08. All i want to do is spend time with her and have a good relationship.SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Love is a powerful thing. You can't make her love you. You're kind of lying to yourself there, because if you didn't care about that guy why would you think about her being with him? Make sure she isn't cheating on you. If she is, I doubt you'll dump her. But who knows? Just give her time. She may come around, and when she does you two will be happy.

Answer 2

what you need to do is talk to her face to face. tell her to be straight up with you no bs! tell her your really need to know, and to be honest, tell her how you feel, and ask her does she feel the same, ask her does she wanna be with you or  the other guy. she is the only person that can tell you how she feels. it sounds like she could be drifting off towards this other guy. try a romantic dinner or some place nice to tell her your feelings and ask her questions. if her hearts not in it there is nothing you can do but move on, or else you will get hurt.

Answer 3

I think she is scared of letting herself fall for u because she is scared that one day u will change ur mind and break her heart. I've felt that way before that although I loved the person very much it was soo hard for me to show him that i did because of how vulnerable it made me feel and all i ended up doing was pushing him away. Keep trying please. Hopefully she will come around  

Answer 4

romance her silly!

get her some roses or other flowers

write her a nice note

send her a poem which you think represents you

but ouch look be careful.

i hate to admit it but i've done what your girlfriend is doing before. i broke the guys heart and it still kills me now.

i had a crush on another guy- turns out he was abstract art- and i was still telling my bf i loved him and he loved me. and he was crazy about me. i told him about this guy.

i ended up breaking up with the guy, then getting back together, then going out and breaking up again....

it was horrible.

look, all you can do it try your best to stay with her but try to save something for you to fall back on incase she ends up rejecting you, ya know?

goodluck, xx

Answer 5

Buy her a rose and tell her i hope you love me as much as i love you.

Answer 6

If you truly love her so much, you must learn to respect her wish, if she so decides to leave you.

Answer 7

dear brother same problam bt don't worry ,dear pyar usse karna chahiye jo tumse pyar karta ho. koi to kami hai jo she is ignoring u.pls changing ur love style or for some days ignor girlfriend and show the result im not sure bt 80% succeses

Answer 8

ur trying to hard....ur pushing her away

give her some space.....u cant make her love you....talk to her...see what it is she actually wants....thinks...feels....

and go from there

Answer 9

What i did was get lots of information from my friends who knows the lover and slowly get an answer. Does that help?

Answer 10

When mother forces me to drink water everyday, I start to like cola.

Your dedication is admirable, but in a relationship, it must be from both sides. Your care, when too much, is pushing you and pushing her at the same time. You feel rushed, and worried. She feels she needs some freedom.

Love and care have many degrees, many facades. But they tend to fall into your blind spot. So, I suggest you slow down, express your love when you feel natural to do so, and avoid doing it just for the sake of showing it.

Besides, she may be calmer and more appropriate to lead your relationship, for the moment at least. Give her the freedom to do so.

Answer 11

sometimes its better to just let go of someone who doesn't feel the same than wasting all that time thinking about her and loving her so mush when its not reciprocated.

Answer 12

just ask her if she really loves you or no?? be careful you love her so much if she does not love you that make you nervous and stress leads suicide by yourself....do not love her so much just love her then if she loves you really so let you love her so much leads to marriage just happpppy married. OK....good man

Answer 13

please, please, please, lets just cut to the chase. the girl doesn't love you, she just enjoys being chased after. love isn't suppose to hurt, when you love someone, you don't wanna hurt them or see them hurt, you actually wanna spend every second of your life with them... protecting them and caring for them with all you have, so i know this hurts but she doesn't love you at all. my advice to you sweetheart is that, move on and next time, don't fall so hard.

Answer 14

dude i feel bad for you, but at this time at night im usually an emotional wreck. so my answer for you is. at least you have a girlfriend.

ill try to help.  sit her down and talk about your relationship. ask if she enjoys being with you, all this other emotional c**p, and if she says yes your good. just cuz a girl thinks a guy is hot doesnt mean shes in love with him. maybe she thinks the other guy is hot. but she says she wants to be with you.... that means you have somethng that he doesnt. something she likes and her lol

Answer 15

First off you can not make someone love you. Either they love you or they don't simple as that. If she is always brushing you off, she may not be that interested in you, she may have issues with truth. Tell her you relay need to talk to her tell her how you feel, and ask her to tell you how she feels. I know you do not want to hear this but it may not be meant to be, ma by she does not want to hurt you, but at the same time does not relay want to be with you.

It is hard to get a good picture of your relation ship without many details, so I don't know if age may be a factor, or ma by any thing else.

Just sit down with her and talk.

I know I had many bad relationships be for I met my husband, and I was slow to trust him, but we dated for a bit and here we are 6 years later still married, and have a good relationship.

Good Luck