I love my husband very much so why do i desire to sleep with a woman so much?

Question

I have always been attracted to woman but i have only ever had sexual relationships with men. I am happily married to a man that i adore more than anything in the world. we have the best s*x iv ever had but my desire to sleep with a woman is getting so strong that i don't know how to deal with it. my husband and me were at a club and a bi woman was really flirting with me and i couldn't help but flirt back and i told him that i had briefly thought about sleeping with her on my own with his consent and this has really hurt him. He said we could arrange a threesome to satisfy my desires but the truth is i couldn't handle him touching anyone else as i love him so deeply. I am feeling like a really bad selfish person and a freak right now. is it possible for me to put these feelings back in the box they came from forever before i spoil what my husband and i have together?

please help.

Answer 1

Avoid being with women alone

Answer 2

I am in the exact same position. I desire to sleep with a woman too.

Answer 3

Of course he is hurt, you want to cheat on him. And not just that, when he offers to be there with you so that you can satisfy your desire, you can't handle it. If my wife said she wants to sleep with another woman I would be pissed off, and even more so when I can't be there. Now imagine he actually did consent. Now while you go over to that womans house he is waiting there at home thinking of what the h**l you two are doing. Sure, maybe you get an o****m. But how will it feel when you come home and you have to face your husband, and the next morning as well. Fantasies are better when they stay fantasies, do not act on it, it will be the greatest mistake you can make!!!

Answer 4

My wife is curious about playing with women. The difference with us is that I am in full support even though I will not participate.

Answer 5

Sounds like you want your cake and eat it too.  You can't have it all, especially if it will hurt your husband.  Be careful what you wish for, as it could cost you everything for a little piece of p***y.

Answer 6

It sounds like he's afraid you will prefer her touches and caresses to his.  Most men will never understand the level of intimacy between women, but that if they accept it lovingly, they are bound to reap the benefits.  

Men don't like the fact that their fantasy is threatened by the fact that when two truly bisexual women get together, it's NOT all about the man starring in his own pornographic fantasy, but it's about fulfilling a baser desire between two women.  

Women are very much nurturing and passionate creatures and in matriarchal cultures, bisexuality and lesbianism is much more common and accepted.  

Answer 7

Well this is quite a mess.  I think the fact that your husband is willing to accommodate your desire at all is very loving of him.  I can imagine how much it must hurt for your partner to tell you that they aren't able to fully scratch your "itch".

So now you need to make a choice.  This is called give and take - the essence of a marriage.  If you want to experience this, you need to be clear in your head and heart that in order to get what you desire, you need to give - and make sure this woman knows that you both satisfy your husband first, then satisfy each other.

If the thought of this is too much, then so long as it over rides your own desires you need to put them back in that "box".

So, it sounds like you have a choice to make.  The fact that you have this desire personally doesn't bother me we all have our quirks.  The fact that you are not willing to give and take though to me seems very selfish.

Answer 8

you're attracted to women, but cheating is cheating. if he can't touch, then YOU can't touch. so.....how bad do you want it?

Answer 9

Why are you letting the evil one come in between you and Gods convetent for marriage.You don't know a few minutes of sexual desirer can lead to problems in your life.All you have to do is ask Jesus to take these feelings from you,and he will.This could dissolve your marriage,are you willing to take that leap.

Answer 10

Sounds like you have an itch from way back. Marriage is a life long commitment and you made it willingly. How  would you feel if your husband told you he loves you but wants to sleep with someone else because although your s*x life is so fantastic there is something still missing ? Maybe the 2 of you can investigate the swing scene ? If not then fantasy masturbation , control or counseling is the only answer.  

Answer 11

do not do it b/c it will open the door for destuction and much problems u dont want. ur hubby may arrange it just to satisfy you but it will leave him feeling helpless and he will resent you for that in the long run.

Answer 12

That's the definition of a hypocrite.

a person who professes beliefs and opinions that he or she does not hold in order to conceal his or her real feelings or motives