I love my neice.........

Question

My neice was 4 months when her dad left the country as he had no visa. Know she is 5 years old. Suppose he came back for her when she was 7 how hard would it be for him to be able to see her. I really hate his dad and dont ever want him to see her.

Answer 1

don't let the son of a b**** near her.

Answer 2

None of this is your business, it is between the mother, father and if need be the courts  

Answer 3

she? his? her?

Answer 4

She's not your daughter so you have no say in it. You sound like a 10 year old by saying that she shouldn't see the dad because you don't like him, her feelings must be put first, not yours!

Edit: even if her mum doesn't want her to see her dad she has to have a VERY good reason, she's probably mad that he left but she still has to put the child first, not her own feelings because he child will end up resenting her if she ever blocked access for no good reason. Unless he will harm the child in any way by contacting her (directly or indirectly) then he should be allowed to build a relationship with the child. It sounds like he had no choice but to leave the country.

My dad left my mum when she was pregnant (after a 5 yr relationship), he has never bothered with me (even when he was in the same contry as me and knew exactly where I lived), in fact I've never met him or spoken to him or received any form of communication from him, but my mum has told me I have her full support if I ever want to contact him, and that means the world to me. I probably won't ever contact him but I can see she's being the bigger person and that commands a lot of respect.

Answer 5

It would be easy for him to see her unless her Mother refuses him visiting rights.  Then he'd have to take her to court, but if he did he would get visiting rights to her.

Answer 6

ask your niece if she would like to see her father.

her feelings must be put first.

if her father is a horrible man then i totally agree with you.

her dad doesn't sound very responsible to parent a child.

if he does turn up again + wants to see her, he should be reminded that hes never once bothered to contact her before, so why should he be allowed to now.

it will be very mysterious if her father just turns up out of the blue.

personally i think he shouldn't be allowed to see her.

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Answer 7

If the dad gets here legally then he could ask for parental rights.  The mother would need to see an attorney.   This is why people should think twice about having babies here when they are not here legally.  They can end up splitting up their family.  No one should do that to kids.