I love my son with all my heart however he is really bad................?

Question

Ok my son is 15 months old. He is one of the baddest kids I have ever seen or meet. If he doesn't get his way he will scream, kick, bite, sratch, punch, cry, lay on the floor and kick, throw things.... What do I do? He is always getting into things he knows he is not suppose to. Wires, bathroom toilet, dishes, climbing up on windows and tables, chewing on my shoes, everything you could think of. I tell him no, I tried time-outs however he will just scream bloody murder for an hour if thats how long it takes for me to give in. I am running out of options. I love him with all my heart and no not all the time we spend together is horrible. He gives kisses and hugs to me. Always wants to tell me something(no i can't understand him). Then he turns into the devils child. And might I add he is not this way with anyone except me. He listens to his dad, babysitter, and all my friends. Why not me?? Please someone give me advice that will work.

Answer 1

He is 15 months old and he is acting like he is 15 months old.  IGNORE the tantrums.  He does them because you give him attention.  Yes he is always getting into things..because he is 15 months old and YOU as his parent have the JOB of keeping an eye on him and keeping OUT of harms way.  HE is only 15 months old.  Telling him "no" isn't going to work because HE is only 15 months old and has no idea what "no" is.  His brain didn't come equipped with a dicitonary.  So he screams for an hour...and YOU give in.  So of course he is going to continue because he knows eventually YOU will give in and tada HE is in control even though HE is only 15 months old.

Answer 2

You maybe giving in to soon try getting a play pin and that way when he's acting up you can get a little break to cool yourself off and he can hopefully understand that mom is  upset  because at that age do do understand feelings.

Answer 3

Welcome to the world of toddlers! He's trying to get your attention with all of that acting out... like you said, you never get to spend a lot of time with him so he's starved for you attention. However, NEVER give in. He'll just keep doing it and think that's how he can win you over. It will come to pass unless you keep giving in. Whenever my toddler acts out and kicks around all over the floor, I ignore him and he calms down after a bit. OR we put him in time out in one of the bedrooms.

LOL you don't put a 15-month-old in a playpen! haha I've never used one of those things...

Answer 4

He sounds like my little sister, who's 6! The only thing that works for me, is to calmly talk to her and explain that what she is doing is wrong. I tell her that this is her first warning and the next time she will sit in time out, or go to her room (she has one at my house). While she's in time out she can't have any toys and has to sit in another room or somewhere were she can't see tv. At first she would scream and throw a fit, tell me she hates me, hit my 11 mo. old baby, you name it.  But the sterner I was the more she knew that I wouldn't tolerate her behavior. I never gave in to her. If she sat in the corner and threw a fit, she'd sit there longer until she was done with her temper-tamptrum and was civil with me and my family. And I don't want to sound like a meany, but sometimes children need a little swat on the bottom! Not hard, but enough to get their attention! I try not to do that with my little sister, but sometimes when she get too "out of control" she does get a little swat, and she realizes that she's gone too far, and will quickly appologize. Just always remember to keep your "cool" with him.  He knows your getting irratated and sometimes they like to do that. If you feel yourself getting upset, just put him in a play-pen and go to another room for a few seconds to cool off.  I have to do it with my almost one year old sometimes.  It gives you a chance to sort your thoughts and decide what you need to do. But honestly, the reason he does it to you is cause somewhere along the lines you've let him get away with things. My daughter is the same way with her dad.  She's really good for me, but as soon as I leave or go do something and she's with her dad, she's "naughty". He's slowly learning not to let her get away with things.  Just remember: IT TAKES TIME! ROME WASN'T BUILT IN A DAY!  Good luck! I hope I helped!

ps. we also made rules that were fair! ie. No hitting, no kicking, ect. and I explained why we don't hit, kick, ect. it works!

Answer 5

I can tell u love him a lot! He knows that and takes advantage of it! Kids will test you to see how far they can go with you. First you should set some ground rules. Take him around the house and show him what is suppose to do and not suppose to do. Do that even when u go out. Like before you get out of the car and go to a restaurant tell him the way u expect him to behave. Try using time-out. 1 min per age. 1 yo= 1 min. Be consistent. It is going to be hard at first like the super nanny! Put him back as many times as u need to. Don't give up.  that will only tell him that if he cries enough we'll get his way. He also needs to apologize. To master the time-out technique u should watch the supper-nanny on ABC.Also when u go out always have an activities bag. A back pack full of things to keep him entertained. Kids that have nothing to do get into trouble. i hope I was able to help. Good luck!

Answer 6

its not to early to start time out, or anything you can do to teach him this behavior is wrong, my 16 moth old through a fit like i never seen before, i put her in her room, she cried and screamed but she quit crying and came out of her room, she knew what she did was wrong and if she did it again she would go back in her room, even at this age they are very smart and are learning what they can get by with, don't give in, i know it makes you feel terrible but teaching them is the best thing you can do, and the earlier the better, trust me i have a four kids and i wish i had been more strict on them when they were toddlers because they can be really difficult now.

Answer 7

It appears like you haven't established yourself as an authority in his life. He see you as an equal that he can control.

Enforce what you ask of him with love, firmness, and penalty for failure with consistency.

Answer 8

Raising a toddler is very frustrating. My son is almost 2.5 years old and he gives me similar problems. You have to think of them as little people, there is a reason he is acting up and getting upset. Time outs rarely work for my son and neither does yelling, it just makes him more upset. What works best for him is when I kneel down to his eye level and really try to communicate with him in a caring and understanding way. Ask him questions like, "Are you mad because...?" "Are you sad/upset because...?"

Even thought you can't understand him well doesn't mean you shouldn't try to communicate. This is probably a good reason why he is getting so upset sometimes because he has so much to say but cannot express himself. Next time this happens, take a step back and approach him calmly. Of course he isn't always going to accept your trying to communicate with him, he is a toddler. But patience is key.

If he isn't listening to you it is probably because he knows what he can get away with. Set some firm ground rules and stick to them. Reward him occasionally when he does good without being told and I think you will start to see some changes.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

I would assume he's only acts out this way with you because you allow it. Even if it takes him an hour of screaming before you give in, he knows that you will. Once you try to discipline him you need to stick to the rules and consequences you have set up. When you don't it just teaches him that no matter what you say, he just needs to cry for awhile to get his way. Let him cry for awhile without giving in, it might not be nice on the ears but it'll eventually teach him that when you say something you mean it. And his crying and tantrums will soon be a thing of the past.

Answer 10

Maybe you are the only one who doesn't discipline. No matter what age, bad behavior needs to be acted upon, or it will spiral out of control.

Try time out., he acts up, sits down in a special time out area for one minute per his age. he gets up, don't talk, just place him back and start time again.

Afterwards explain what he did wrong and get him to say sorry and big hugs.

Always give a warning b4 placing in timeout to see if he will fix teh behaviour

Answer 11

he does not listen to u because he knows what u will do but he listens to other people because he is not sure what they will do, so try some new parenting tecnics( sorry not much of a speller), like tape a piece of paper up on the wall draw  a red circle above his nose and make him stand on his tip toes for a time  limet and it should work thats what was done to me when i was yonger