I love them both...what should i do when an ex comes back?

Question

So i am currently with my boyfriend ov 5 months. I love him a lot. Unfortunately i have fallen for him so quickly. Recently an ex boyfriend, my first love, my whole world ov almost 2 years has come back into my life. He just went away too college for 2 years. He says that he wants me to come visit him so that we can get back together n when he gets back we will be mature enough to get married. Then h wrote me on myspace today said he missed me n wants to see me n said "I LOVE YOU". iT was a really big shock to me cuz i haven't heard it from him in so long. I keep thinking like what if he is playing with my head n break up with my current boyfriend, knowing that it it will crush him, then i will have lost both ov them. I don't know what i should do. Any advice would help. Thanks.

Answer 1

What are you doing? There was a reason you and your ex broke up and whatever reason that was trust me it hasn't changed. I spent many years waiting around for an ex who kept making promises and in the end it was jusst a waste of my time and my feelings. Don't risk what you have for some past relationship that is over now. It is not worth it.  

Answer 2

i would say always go forward meaning leave the ex behind.he is just gonna come and complicate things in your life and if you get rid of the new b/f for basically no reason it could back fire.before you do anything always think about the consequences!

Answer 3

You do one of two things:

1. You forget the ex, stop contacting him, and move on with your current boyfriend.

2. You break up with your boyfriend FIRST, and then pursue things with your ex.

See, I've got this feeling like you're going to dabble into things with the ex while trying to keep your relationship in tact, and see if things with the ex are secure enough to leave your boyfriend. I wouldn't suggest doing that.

Make one decision, but commit to that decision and deal with the consequences. Good luck.  

Answer 4

Depending on his type, the honest type, or the really hurtful pranky bully kind of person.  If he's the honest type he might be telling the truth, and the other the opposite action.  

Answer 5

really a hard situation, ok I'm gonna tell u about something:

its true as they say that always the first love is the best and no matter what happened u can never forget him/her  but u both already broke up and now u have another guy in ur life and u say that u really love him, so dont lose the guy that u've for someone who is already in the past, he had his chance and he just lost it, and even if u still love him and he do the same but this guy that u r with now, doesnt deserve that u leave him and broke up with him for ur ex boyfriend, so all what I'm saying is that

if u really love ur current boyfriend so dont lose him and just tell ur ex that I already have a bf in my life and I'm happy with him and I love him and I'm sorry I cant be with u, we can still be friends and he should respect ur choise and just move on his life

Thats the best from the way I see it. and in the end its all about u and what u feel deep inside.

Best wishes and gd luck to u, hope things will be fine.

if u needed anymore help about anything feel free to contact me at anytime

Take care and wish u the best