I made a bad mistake concerning gossip....?

Question

I'm in a situation that I don't know whether I should be guilty about. Here's the scoop...

Last night a few people from my cast were telling me a girl in their grade was pregnant. This girl was 13 (just to let you know) so she was my age. Today during math I was talking with the two girls next to me and I mentioned I think there's a *middle school name* student our age who's pregnant. I know I shouldn't have done this but I didn't even mention a name (I had none) then the girls said "Oh my gosh!" and they both said the same name of a girl I had no idea existed. Then my other friend (who was friend's with this girl) got a little depressed and we dropped it. One of the girl's next to me said she heard someone talking about a similar story but didn't get all the details. We went to lunch and 30 min. into it these two girls who aren't the nicest and some of the most popular came up to me. They were all like "Who told you *insert name* was pregnant? Why did you spread that rumour?" I didn't know the name they were talking about it took me a while to remember she was the girl's name that popped up in math. I explained I talked to some girls and I brought up that I was told there may be a girl who was pregnant at said school. The people who told me were schoolmates with her. So they asked me (really rudely may I add) who brought up the name and I said I didn't remember because I quite frankly don't want to throw people under the bus. Then I said I heard someone say she was friends with the girl. Then they went away and I dropped it. After lunch the girl who was friends with the girl who was pregnant was crying. She hasn't told me why and I feel really guilty and I tried talking to her and said I was sorry over and over for even bringing up what I had heard. Last period (last part of the long story) I talked to a girl who knew the whole story. The girl had had s*x and the condom burst while he was in. She was going on about how we should support since she wasn't getting an abortion. I agree with her completly but I never ment for it to get so out of hand.

Long confusing story and I feel extremley guilty for even bringing it up. The thing is I never heard a name at all before today, I also heard some people talking about something that sound very similar before math class and the girl next to me heard the same story in a previous period. I feel extremley guilty and what should I do? Confront the girls who confronted me at lunch and say that I never ment any harm? I don't even know the girl and thought it was just a thing to talk about because it probably wasn't true, just speculate a bit. If i didn't mention any names I thought it would be fine. Please someone tell me what to do, I never ment any harm and I feel so awful for the girl and I would help her in any way I can if I could.

Answer 1

Dont gossip anymore. See what happens

Answer 2

You should not do anything at this point.  The damage is already done.  All you are doing now by continuously appologizing and talking about how you 'didn't know' is dragging it out and keeping tongues wagging longer.  Just stop talking about it and so will everyone else.

*Even at 13 you have responsibilites if you choose to have s*x.  Doesn't matter how or why things happen.  Sucks but true.  Make sure this sticks in your head for the decisions YOU make.

Answer 3

i was in this situation once when i was your age , you apologized to the pregnant girl you dont have to apoligize to anyone else you did plenty of explaining id let it go those other girls will get over it, dont feel guilty about this forever you did try and everyone makes mistakes

Answer 4

every girl makes mistakes with gossip. Just don't say anything. Don't apologize or something, just drop it.

Answer 5

The best thing you can do at this point is nothing at all. Just drop it and do not discuss it with anyone at any time, it's over. This is why gossip is so deadly, it only takes one thoughtless careless comment and the whole thing gets blown up and starts a raging fire that spreads and gets back to the victim. If you continue by going from girl to girl explaining and apologizing you're helping to assuage your own conscience but at the cost of keeping the story alive. So for HER sake, drop it completely and learn from it and never spread gossip again, it's horrible.

Answer 6

the harm has been done. i wouldn't go up to them and try to explain. jsut drop it, and with time they'll get over it. learn from this and dont do it again.