I made a huge mistake...?

Question

I made a huge mistake... I had a one night affair with my partner of five years, ex-friend. He found out a week and a half ago. I feel so guilty. Although he says he has forgiven me, he constantly finds ways to make me feel like scum of the earth, deservedly. The problem is, he wants me to come over and stay the night with, him, but I don't know if I should go. I want more than anything for things to work out, but there's so much anger still there that I don't know if going over will make things any better. But if I don't go than I'm just the ***** that is not trying to make it work. I just want to do the right thing. Should I go?

Answer 1

Listen you got some making up to do....so get to it........learn some new tricks before you go over. Maybe watch some p**n.

Answer 2

I would.  Hey, he's inviting you back after what you did.  Deal with his anger, and be thankful that he still cares about you enough to want you back.

Answer 3

Oh what a tangled web we weave,

when at first we try to conceive.

Answer 4

this wasn't a mistake.  this was a decision you made for your own reasons.

Calling it something else doesn' t change it.  You are unfaithful.  Now you're making excuses so you don't have to deal the outcome from your decision.  

Since he hasn't had the good sense to drop you, you should realize that your decision is a strong indicator that significant change has occurred in your relationship.  How long it has been undergoing this change is a question.  Doesn't really matter.  The change is real and you need to face it.

Answer 5

Get some mental councelling

Answer 6

ask him to go to you.

Answer 7

I hate to tell you this, but he is using your guilt to manipulate you.  He needs to either get over it or get out of it. You do not deserve to be treated like scum, you made a horrible (horrible!) mistake. Do not let him manipulate you.  If you do, he will hold it over your head for the rest of your life.  It seems like you two should be talking like mature adults about this, not spending a guilt driven night togethor.

Answer 8

i say go over to talk , listen to how he feel or whatever he may want to talk about, but if you care about him you would go because you're sorry and want to salvage what may be remaining of your relationship, if he tries to sleep with you it's because he loves you and he wants you to look at him like he's better than the guy you cheated with even though that may not have any reason on why you stepped out in the first place. when guys get hurt they actually take things harder than most females.

Answer 9

Take it slow... I agree, you should spend the evening over there but not the night. He will probably need time to sort through this. It is possible that he will never forgive you but still try to stay with you. You don't want to be punished daily forever. Set a time limit for working this out and trying to regain his trust. 9 months? If he still isn't over it, maybe you should move on. And now you know how it feels to make this mistake!

Answer 10

Go to talk,, not to sleepover