I married a man 22 years my senior. I am bi-sexual. I have s*x with women but no other men. Is this wrong?

Question

I love my husband and s*x with him is great He knows about it and told me it's fine with him as long as all my other s*x partners are ONLY women. He says because of the age difference he realizes he might not be able to satisfy me completely and does not feel threatened by my L*****n affairs and even hopes it makes me happy. He just does not want a competitor ie another man and I have no desire for any man but him Are there any other women out there in a similar situation? I love this way of living. He does not participate or even ask to watch. We have been married 8 wonderful years with no problems at all. Am I just lucky or am I wrong in doing this?

PS: I had 3 other male lovers in my past who were my age and the only pleasure with them was the s*x. They all lacked the loving I really wanted from a man.

Answer 1

To each there own.

But by the standards I try to live by and how my own brain interprets right and wrong I can safely say that your committing adultery.

    Personally I wouldn't be able to stand it. But I have to wonder what the "husband" is doing while your away doing your own thing..

        Situations like these rarely works out but good luck.

Answer 2

Hey you are honest with him I think that's great.  

Answer 3

Yes.  If you marry someone you marry them.  You have chosen to bewith them.  I like men with green eyes too and my hubby has blue.  That does not mean I can go find a man with green eyes.

Answer 4

If you are being honest with your husband and the women you have occasional s*x with, how could this be either wrong or anyone else's business?

What would be "wrong" would be lying, cheating and hurting the feelings of other people.

If this is not happening, what's the problem?

Cheers :-)

Answer 5

In my opinion, you shouldn't be married if you are doing this. When you marry someone you are only committed to them. And even if you weren't married, sleeping with different people (whether they be male or female) is very wrong and it definitely won't make you any happier.

But as long as he's okay with it you can do what you like.

Answer 6

I wouldn't live the way you describe, but since you're being truthful with your male partner, and with your female partners, I don't think it's fair to judge you because of your choices. I'm bisexual but I'm the monogamous type, so I was with a male partner a few years, a female partner for over a decade, and now am with a male partner.

As long as all of the people involved are aware of what you're doing, I don't see a reason to condemn your choices.  

Answer 7

Your lifestyle is your choice.  From a fundamentalist perspective, you are wrong for committing adultery and homosexuality.  But that is between you, your husband, and God, whether you believe in his teachings or not.

Answer 8

lol are you serious?

Answer 9

It sounds like you have a good set-up and so long as no-one is getting hurt, you should consider yourself lucky to have such an understanding husband. (And he should consider himself lucky to have a younger wife :-))

Answer 10

Sweet. Sounds like a good deal for both of you. He gets a hot younger woman who is into girl/girl action and you get to enjoy said girl/girl action.  

Answer 11

If your husband is ok with it, its not wrong as far as your relationship is.  As far as Biblically, that may be another story.

Answer 12

What are you really asking here -- if it's okay to have extramarital affairs as long as they're homosexual, and with your spouse's permission?  This is definitely not the usual marriage, but I guess couple can work out any arrangement that works for them.  If you're arrangement works for you both, what's the problem?  He's made his "rules" clear, and you're following them.  Are you asking for permission to break his rules, and have s*x with other men?   Have you ever considered being faithful to ONE person.  That's my definition of marriage, but I don't want to impose it on you.

Answer 13

You already know that it's wrong, but if the two of you are happy, carry on.  Don't get angry when he goes out and does the same.

Answer 14

Would it bother you if your husband had s*x with another man? If so then I don't think you are being true to yourself and your husband.

Answer 15

As Maria said, certainly you know it's wrong !.. This is merely another indication of how people are butchering the meaning of the institution !.. Marriage is not about compromises for extramarital affairs ; it IS about matrimonial VOWS..  As gravy said, commitment to 1 [ONE]. It's quite peculiar how one tries to justify making a joke of marriage by referring to it in this case as a 'lifestyle' & then  employing the word 'sorry'..... That FAILS to correct or remedy any of this cheating..