I married to a girl who was almost blind but I didnt recognized it in that time( it was arranged) what now?

Question

I got married to a girl who was almost blind , She and her parents conceeled it from me and my family. After she came to the U.S she told me about her problem. I cant accept her as my wife since she and her family lied to me. I need to add that it was (arranged marriage ), 2 years has passed and I still have problem accepting the fact that she lied to me. Our marriage is h**l and I realy dont know what to do, should i divorce or continue this measerable life?

Answer 1

boohoo get over it and have a happy marriage (if that is the only problem you have you need to suck it up and be happy with ehr) or divorce her.  it's your only too options.  Did you consider that she hid it from you PROBABLY because her family forced her to!!!

If her being ALMOST blind is THAT miserable on you then She is the one that deserves a better man than you!!!

Answer 2

My goodness I can see why you are frustrated. I am not very familiar with how arranged marriages work. But if you had any say at all in deciding to marry her then I think that you should definitely stand firm in your decision to marry her and continue the marriage. I do not think that was right for her and her family to lie to you but, whats done is done you have got to let this go and forgive her. Trust me when I say forgiveness will heal you and your marriage. When you harbor resentment and anger the only person that you are affecting is yourself. Marriage Counseling sounds like it needs to be applied in your lives I think that it would help. Also, just because she is blind does not mean she is not a beautiful person. Maybe you have been blinded yourself because you have been so angry for the past 2 years that you have missed out on what could have been a blessing. No one is perfect and until you decide to forgive her you will never be happy. God Bless You and I hope that you can find some happiness and mend your heart.

Answer 3

Be happy.  You can grow old, fat, and ugly and she'll never know!

Answer 4

arranged marriages still happen? but u have the choice to divorce? wow that sounds dumb and pointless

Answer 5

the fact that she and her family lied to u is horrible and that does cause problems but the fact that she is almost blind is sad to  hear but if u really love her u should try to work it out and  dont let her disadvantage ruin her life and make her understand that u lovr her and that lying is not right and if she loves u she shouldnt lie. divorces suck and ruin lives i think u shouldnt take that road. good luck

Answer 6

i know that she lied to you, but put yourself in her shoes. she has a visual disability and nothing more. that's it. she can't see as well as the rest of us, but yet she is judged only because of her vision. wouldn't you lie too? i would. she's almost blond, who cares. It doesn't effect who she is, how she thinks, or the person she is inside. i say get over it. however, you say the marriage is miserable. there must be something else going on that is making your marriage bad.  

Answer 7

I'm not sure if it's her that is blind or you are/were blind. If this relationship is based on lies & deception you need to get away with all of this.

Answer 8

What does your family and culture say about divorce in this circumstance?  She and her family lied to all of you and you are very unhappy, I would divorce!  

Answer 9

Well, I might recommend seeing a marriage counselor to talk about why it is so hard for you to work past this lie and realize that, though they didn't tell you, this is something that is probably much more difficult for her to deal with than you.  I understand the frustration, but is it difficult for to see why she might not have told you?  Could it have been that she was embarrassed or in a state of denial that she was losing such an important sense?  I would not recommend just giving up- I think it would be beneficial for you, even if it does end up in divorced, to work through this for yourself if nothing else.  Good luck and please consider seeing someone.

Answer 10

If it was an arranged marriage , have you stopped to think that maybe she could not tell you because she was threatened if she did so by her parents who did not want her messing up their chance to come to America too ? If she told you when she got here she certainly did not have to tell you if she had something to hide , but this girl was truthful with you. I would not be too hard on her . As far as your being married for 2 years , then you sure have a funny way of showing your love by doubting hers and accusing her of tricking you and your family . Think carefully before you do something that might hurt you both .

Answer 11

Well.. Did you ask if she was blind? If not, then they didn't lie to you.  

Answer 12

You need to let her know how you're feeling - you can't keep living a lie. It was wrong that she lied to you but have you spoken about this? Why she did this? If not then now is the time. If you love eachother then you will get through this, and you can support her with her sight problems... but if not and if you can't accept that she lied then I think it's best for you both to go your seperate ways.