I may have messed up a relationship with my friend, help please ?

Question

My friend is a very proud african-american woman, while I am a white male. Im 19 and she is 21, and honestly i think that she is pretty cool. But i live in texas, and i dont know how things are outside of where i am from, but there is definitely a racial barrier here, and i do think that the stereotypes of racism are funny, despite the fact that i know that they are not true. I'm definitely not racist, i live with a black guy (adam) and we're great friends, and i have many hispanic and asian friends too. Me and my friends play a lot of games, and on this particular evening, we were playing a game that lets you make your own levels. one of our levels (which adam picked lol) contained the "n" word (with -er on the end, not -a) in the name of the level. When my female friend saw the name of the level, she said something about it and then soon after that she left. Is there anything that i can do to preserve our friendship? She is really cool and i would rather not have her on my list of enemies.

Answer 1

I'm a white female and have been called a cracker plenty of times. I have been threatened and pushed around because of the color I was born with. That does not effect how I veiw the world but it did hurt a lot. I know where she's comming from and sometimes people just have to walk away before we break down in front of the people we love. You are obviously a great friend so you already know what to do. talk it out with her as soon as she's ready

your friend, on the other hand, needs a news flash. give him one. let him know that society is trying to put all of the hate behind us. it can only be accomplished one person at a time. if he does not change the way he thinks, you should reconsider your friendship with him. I cannot disown my father, i love him dearly, but I do try to change his horrible slang one racist comment at a time. good luck!

Answer 2

I would call her and ask if she was offended because that is not what was intended and you are afraid that there was a misunderstanding and explain the situation. If I were her I would understant.