I mess up, I made my brother end lose his GF?

Question

Ok I know I'm not making any fans here, even any respect. Here's the story my Brother is a great guy, very loving very protective very reserved. My brother was dating this great girl, needless to say I got jealous and started playing mind games on my brother to break his confidence, I did so with getting my friends to call and say they slept with his GF, had brought up his painfull past so he would dwell on the negitive(he is a romantic type happy and quite and mysterious, charming and althow never frist to start a convo he never dismisses any body that talks to him) I knew because of his loving nature he wouldn't catch on to me and I knew I would destroy him.... but because of it he got dumped I told him and her what I did but I doubt It will be enough to fix what I did, and, my brother said he should of never let me knock him down so far (he's back to his normal self confidant again) and he said he looks at me like I need to be fixed and he fears his ex will in his words "I fear the eyes I look at you with pains us both, and, she will stare at me the same bring much pain to us..." my question is, Is there any way I fix this the 2 of them loved each other so much before I fucked things up for my selfish reasons (p.s my brother loved me and her more then anything and he lost us both thanks to me so help me fix it)

Answer 1

Well, there is nothing really to do but tell them the truth, but you had done that already. There is no real way to help people fall back into love, especially when the break up was hurtful. There are wounds that need to be healed and finding the strength to forget it.

You lost your brother's trust, not love. He is your brother and no one will know him better than you and vice verse. It will be a lot of work, but you need to start showing him he can trust you again by being the way you were before all this. He loves you, don't forget that.

Now his ex, they need to do this on their own with a little help from you. Only they can find themselves back together after the wounds are healed. If they truly love each other, one day, they will know this and try to make it work again. For you to help, you need to show clear signs that you can be her friend and would welcome her to part of the family if she chooses to be with him again. She may not want to be part of any family if there are those who would not like her or give her problems.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm afraid there isn't a quick fix for this. You betrayed him, and her. You breached a trust he had given you wholeheartedly. It will not be easy to set things right, and it could take awhile. With that said..

You need to call her, explain what a royal pain in the butt you were, tell her how jealous you were of what your brother and her shared, and that you let that jealousy carry you too far. And in the end.. ruined everything for everyone. Them, and yourself.

If that doesn't work, it's time for some razzle dazzle.

You're going to have to do something over the top, insanely sweet that maybe,.. just maybe will bring those 2 back together.

For instance.. find a nice restaurant, somewhere that you'll need reservations (Did I forget to mention this may cost you a pretty penny?) OR.. a romantic spot,. somewhere that will be sweet, that the 2 of them enjoyed together. Heck, set them up a picnic near a lake even. THEN...

sent her some flowers, with a card that only has a time.. and whichever location you selected written on it. Do the same for him.. lure the both of them to that one spot.. and pray like crazy that they'll realize just how sorry you are, and how badly you want them to be happy together again. From there, you're gonna have to let nature take its course, if they still love each other.. they may not be able to resist their attraction for long.. as for forgiving you.. that might take a little longer, but hey.. you do the crime, you gotta do the time, right?

Good luck!!!