I messed up big time. This is wrong on so many levels don't you think?

Question

Separated for 5 months almost 6 now. My husband did me so wrong I can't began to explain. On top pf that he has been a dead beat dad up until the last week or so. He lives with his girlfriend and I have been seeing someone. Our divorce isn't final yet and I just started with the paper work (really expensive). My boyfriend's birthday was yesterday and I went over there after work to say hey and happy-b-day, etc....I called him to make sure that he didn't have anything to do he said he was fine. I didn't tell him where I was going or that I was going to see him because it's not his business he had our daughter so I did call to make sure he didn't have plans. Maybe 30 minutes went by and he need to go ASAP and needs me to get home so he can leave. I told him I was onmy way and he said if I gave him $50 he would stay. I'm a very noconfrontationalal person and I just agreed to shut him up he does this alot. My boyfriend seen the text when I was in the bathroom and was upset. I came out and he was arguing with someone I heard my daughter name and immedialety knew he had went through my phone and called him. I don't hate her dad I don't want to be with him but that was wrong of my boyfriend to do and not his place. I don't know why he did this.

After that he dropped my baby off with no food, a onsie on, no shoes, and no car seat because he was so angry. He called me so many B***** it was unreal. My boyfriend has been there since we seperated and has helped me financially since then when her dad would do nothing. I can understand his frustration but it wasn't his place. Her dad is back pissedit's worst than before and I know he won't help now. Can anyone shed some light on how to deal with this at this point? Please

Answer 1

If I was reading that kind of text I would see it as suspect too. I also think there is a side to everything. If you did nothing wrong. then you did nothing wrong. How do you explain that to someone who does not want to hear it. I say chose your men wisely and you wont ever have to wrry about such things later.

Answer 2

I am a little bit lost. Who do you think you think you "messed up" with? The ex or the bf?

Well is he is helping you out financially then he did have a right to get mad at you. He thinks your struggling, but you have money to give your ex? I would be pissed too. He also probably hates to see you taken advantage of by your ex.

*newsflash* if he accepting money from you to keep HIS daughter then he still is a deadbeat loser.

Answer 3

I think you have a wrong'un here, you need to distance yourself from both men as they are abusing you, it's not your fault, neither of them are good for you...making you pay for company is abuse, please seriously consider leaving they've seen that you are vulnerable and are using this, think of your child, he/she is being used as a pawn to get at you and it is dangerous to have a child in a car without a seat, please think of yourself, you may be lonely on your own, but it's got to be better than this, eventually you'll feel good because you got away to a better life, please dont put up with the current situation.

Answer 4

sorry hun but ya b/f had every right to say something if i was pay your bills or helping pay them and you gave your baby's daddy money i would show my a** on him and you he was right to say something to this guy maybe its what you need some one to tell your ex what a bum he is please get a back bone and thank your new bf sounds like he is just what you need in your life your babys father is a dead beat and ask you for money and you give it to him and your new boy friend has to give you money to help you pay the bills uuumm are you gonna give his ex 50 $ to get her nails done