I messed up with a married man......?

Question

I am good friends with a married man. We just enjoy each others company and I ask him for advice since he is a father figure to me.

We have always had a father and daughter relationship until we got intimate. We didn't have s*x but he asked me to give him a bj. He told me that I was really good and he even lasted 5 minutes.

However, we didn't speak for 2 weeks and I tried to resume our friendship since he meant a lot to me. Now it just seems like he wants nothing to do with me. He even stopped calling me. It just seems like he lost interest.

I thought I wouldn't care but I feel like he used me for his own pleasure and throw me away like a pike of garbage. Maybe his wife doesn't give him BJ's anymore.

I never felt so worse in my life.

So how to put it be hind me and move on?

Answer 1

This is what married men do with the women they cheat on their wives with. They use them , and then toss them aside. One day, all you homewreckers will realize that and learn to leave married men alone. Oh, and can I mention that it's kinda sick that you give your "father figure" a bj. That's just gross.

Answer 2

first of all...if this guy was a father figure??...what are you saying? he was not a father figure or you would not have even been talking about oral s*x! let alone done it to him... it would have grossed you out...you have really messed up...now you have to break off the friendship...he should have been more mature than that anyway...he should not have asked you to do that and you should not have done it...both of you ruined that deal...now get over it...and keep your mouth off of others parts....do you even know where his thing has been? ick! save that for the one you adore and marry.... and the reason he stopped calling is he is mortified of what happened and who you might tell..and he should be FOREVER!. .dam perv...

Answer 3

OK Lovey...

Number 1 - move on to an unmarried fella (leave our husbands alone!)

Number 2 - take some of the advice you keep asking (and asking and asking) for and

Number 3 - stop giving bj's to men just cos they ask!!!!!

How naive are you (I dont think his wife gives him bj's!!) u've been used, learn from it and dont let it happen again (see number 3 above).

Answer 4

HE IS NOT SPEAKING , i BELIEVE , BECAUSE HE IS ASHAMED OF WHAT HE DID TO YOU AND TO HIS MARRIAGE . HE CAN NOT FACE YOU AND KNOW THE HURT HE INFLICTED . HE POSSIBLY HAS KIDS THAT ARE NEAR OR AT YOUR AGE AND HE IS THINKING ABOUT WHAT HE WOULD DO IF SOMEONE HURT HIS DAUGHTER THE WAY HE DID YOU . IT IS NOT YOU THAT HE CONSIDERS A PILE OF GARBAGE , IT IS HIMSELF . YOU CAN MOVE ON KNOWING THAT HE HURT HIMSELF TOO BY LOSING YOU AS A FRIEND AND HE DOES NOT LIKE THAT IDEA. HE ALSO COULD BE AFRAID THAT HE MIGHT ASK YOU TO DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT AGAIN AND HE KNOWS IT WAS AND WOULD BE REALLY WRONG . OLDER PEOPLE SOMETIMES TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THEIR BEING OLDER AND THEN DO SOMETHING LIKE HE DID , JUST MOVE ON AND GET OTHER AND BETTER FRIENDS THAT WILL NOT TREAT YOU THAT WAY , AND YOU CAN TAKE SOLACE IN THE FACT THAT HE IS SUFFERING FROM WHAT HE DID TO YOU.

Answer 5

didn't you just ask this Q?

Answer 6

move on

he used you, and now he's done

he's NOT a nice guy

Answer 7

Girl, you are some naive.. he came out and asked you to do it, you did, he got what he always wanted from you , you just did it? Chalk this one up to experience, and ignore and don`t do it again ever, avoid him, he cheated on his wife. He always, no matter how it seemed to you, wanted that from you, you did it, he got what he wanted and moved on.Be careful of who you trust in the future.

Answer 8

By knowing he used you.

Answer 9

next time he asks slap him across the face and walk off proud !

Answer 10

Didn't you just ask this question?

Grow up and move on. Nothing good comes from having s*x with a married man. And YES a BJ is oral s*x.

Answer 11

Life is all about learning.  And learning from our MISTAKES is the VERY best way.  You DID make a mistake and he probably DID use you.  But then. . . you ALSO allowed it !!!!!!!!!!  

NO ONE CAN DO ANYTHING TO US UNLESS WE ALLOW IT.  And you said you DID allow it !!!!!!!!!!   So. . . .like it or not. . . .you're going to HAVE to take some responsibility for your actions.

NOW IF YOU'RE UNDERAGE. . .REPORT THE SON-OF-A-B*TCH TO THE POLICE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   If you ARE of age. . .learn from your mistake. . .and vow NEVER to do it again.  And remember. . .almost every single woman out there has had some ja*koff take liberties.  But then. . . .that's why MOST of us are B*TCHES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

Pls dont feel bad for urself as well as for him.... u did it b'coz if wanted to do tht moment... whtever might be the reason.... he is not talking to u..... he might have his own reasons.... so, pls dont react heavily widout knowing the reason behnd his strange behaviour...... and mind tht noone can use anybody like tht .... there might be some feelings & emotions involved..... otherwise, if u r a pie of a cake..... I can use U..... is it possible???? NO!!! B'coz I cannot use u like tht....!!!

Hope, u understand wht am trying to say...!!

Answer 13

He did use you.

If you had a father/daughter relationship you wouldn't have gone this far, and he would have never suggested this.

He is staying away both because of his marriage and he doesn't want attachments. I would stay away from this creep, he isn't who he seems to be, as difficult as this is. Move on, lesson learned.  

Answer 14

shawty, you need to call a hotline or something.  quit asking the same friggin question over and over and over ....  it's not going to get you anywhere.  are you hooked on phonics?  something must be wrong with your comprehension skills.  stop looking for some deadbeat chick to side with you - she's not here - maybe you could find more welcomed advice in the trailer park, or on Jerry Springer.

thanks for the two points

Answer 15

Since you keep posting this, it's hard to know whether or not you even read people's answers, but I will try anyway.  

You put it behind you by learning your lesson.  Don't have s*x with your friends if you want to keep them as friends.  (And yes, a bj most certainly IS s*x.)

Answer 16

You do not want to be around a person like this, how awful of him to use you like that!  Not ot mention cheat on his wife and family.  He probably feels bad about what he did, and wants nothing to do with you because you are a reminder of his bad deed.  Stay away from these types of relationships, especially with married men, they are very destructive.  

Answer 17

Freud would have LOVED you....