I met a guy in Mexico on vacation?

Question

He is Mexican and I am American. We talk on the phone for hours, he is one year older than me and I am falling in love with him. We are so much alike , it's scary. My friends say he just wants a green card. I'm a smart woman and know he is infatuated with me and the green card thing is not his main intention.We havent talked about it yet anyways. I dont care that he would want one, I would too. I am just bothered by all my friends cynism. I am a pretty woman and dont have a difficult time meeting men, so why are they so quick to say he just wants a green card?

Advice and opionions or similar stories are welcome.

Thanks

Answer 1

first thing lady, how old are you, and second how well do you know him besides meeting him couple of days and talking on the phone, if you see him all the time then i would say go for it. if not then i wouldn't mess with him at all cause people have attendance to change when your in person.  

Answer 2

being young and gullible, you will reject this, but it's prevalent in Mexican culture for  the men to stray...go ahead, get pissed, but it's so true. Sure it happens in all cultures, but in the Mexican mentality, it's all part of being a man. Ain't love grand?

jc22ny, you're being really anal about this!

Answer 3

Dear People just have a hard time understanding things that are diffrent.Just like you many people have fallen in love with foreigners while on vacation or even over the internet.Yes there is some chance he may just want a green card but also theres a huge chance he is also looking for love.So go for it!Use caution though,but not paranoia.If its just an infatuation you will get over it quick,if its meant to be only time will tell.Whats important now is that youre happy and that you bring eachother moments of happiness

.Long distance relationships do, however, have unique difficulties. The success of a long-distance relationship might depend greatly on whether the two people who make up the couple adopt the “absence makes the heart grow fonder” or the “out of sight, out of mind” philosophy. If you believe the former, chances are you have what it takes to make a long distance relationship work. Here are some tips to increase your chances of keeping those home fires burning while the two of you are apart.



Commitment. If you want your long-distance relationship to work, it is important that both of you agree on the level of commitment you expect from the relationship. If one of you sees the relationship as serious, committed and monogamous, while the other sees it is as a fun and flirty fling, then there are going to be problems down the road. It is important to make sure you are both on the same page and expect the same things from the relationship. Before throwing your heart and soul into a long-distance relationship, sit down with your partner and communicate openly and honestly about how each of you views the relationship, where you see it going and what you expect from one another. Agree on the ground rules. Making sure you are in agreement from the outset as to where your relationship is headed sets a firm foundation for the future and helps to avoid disappointment down the road.

Communication. Communication is a key in any relationship, but in a long-distance relationship, regular communication is crucial. Set aside regular time to talk to one another on the telephone. Take advantage of lower evening and weekend telephone rates. Make sure your cell phone plan offers free long distance and sufficient free weekend and off-peak minutes. Burning up the long-distance telephone lines is one sure fire way to keep the passion alive when the two of you are apart. But today’s technology offers lots of other ways to communicate with your romantic partner. Flirt via e-mail. Enjoy an occasional night of passionate instant-messaging on the computer. Send each other cute, romantic (and often free) e-cards. And don’t forget the more traditional ways of communicating with a sweetheart who is far away. Revive the long lost art of letter writing and send your significant other a passionate love letter now and then. Pop a card in the mail on special occasions or for no reason at all. When you are not often able to communicate your feelings through touch, other forms of communication become even more important. The long-distance relationship is the place to let your imagination run wild and come up with creative ways of keeping the lines of communication open between the two of you.

Honesty. Honesty is vital to every relationship. In a long-distance relationship, however, honesty has to be taken a step further. The longevity of a long-distance relationship depends a great deal on your ability to communicate honestly with one another about what you are feeling and to resolve issues that, if left to fester, might destroy your relationship. Do you always feel as if you are competing with the sports channel when you call your partner? Does your sweetheart seem to give her relationships with her girlfriends higher priority? If you want your romance to last, then you cannot ignore these feelings and allow resentment to take root in your relationship. Be honest with your partner about how you are feeling so that these issues can be addressed.

Best of Luck Babe!

Answer 4

it depends, if your  boyfriend has style, and he is studying college...

you may want to live in mexico... maybe he is  member of the upper middle class.

you don't give too much details about him...

see ya.

Answer 5

If you guys got serious enough that he asked you to marry him, the fiance process takes around 6 months, but you have to have proof of having met 2 years prior and he shouldn't have any illegal entries to the US. This process if he were approved he can go to the US and get married to you, this visa allows him to be in the US for 3 months. If in that period you don't get married he has to go back. If you do get married then he has to file an adjustment of status (applying for a Green Card) and that process takes over a year but he would be able to stay and work while this process is pending.

If you get married in Mexico then the process takes over a year even 2 years in some cases. Don't ask me why though. But in that case he would have to wait in Mexico until he is approved.

If you guys feel like being together some day then go for it but don't rush into it either.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Does it matter if you love him?

(and if the s*x is good ) lol

u go for it

it's as good a chance as you have with any bf here

:)

~m~

Answer 7

Why would he want a green?

He's in Mexico! it's better

Answer 8

Ok, I am American and I live in Mexico..I love the Mexican people and respect them, BUT...I have seen sooooo many instances of relationships between American women and Mexican men that run into the same very big problem.  IF you continue this relationship, the only way you can be together is for you to move to Mexico.  It is easier for  a camel to walk through the eye of a needle than for a

Mexican citizen to be able to immigrate legally to the U.S....they simply are not allowed to apply for immigration unless they have an immediate family member in the U.S., and even then it takes years and is very complicated.  Marraige to an American citizen does not entitle a Mexican citizen to enter the U.S.  Some couples spend years separated.  In other cases the American has to come live in Mexico.  For an American to get a work visa in Mexico is nearly impossible...especially without a college degree.  And, even then, jobs pay so terribly little here.  This whole situation is very complicated.  Every week there are letters here from young women who have a boyfriend in Mexico and they ask what should they do.  He wants her to come live in Mexico and give up her life in the U.S.  This usually means a complete change of lifestyle, giving up working, independence, family.  It is a very big deal, and seldom works out well.  If he is well-educated, has a good job, etc., it could work.  But if he has only a few yrs of school (very common here ), is not a professional...he will struggle his whole life to just get by.  Don't let those stars in your eyes blind you to the reality of what in international relationship may mean.  If it becomes serious, YOU would be giving up your life in the U.S.  

If you married and had a child, the child would have dual citizenship, but have to raised in Mexico unless you returned to the states, then he would be raised without a father.   Several young women have written to me personally...they have a Mexican boyfriend, and a baby, and now they are torn as to what to do.  He is from a tiny village where life is like it was over 100 yrs ago, his family wants and needs him there, he wants her and the child to live there...she can't stand the thought of it. Some schools in Mexico are good, many are horrid...and all are very different than schools in the U.S.  The problems are endless...so look ahead, think it through, and be very carefull.

Answer 9

Because he does and you are probably fat.