I met someone on line who lives 35 miles of my home. He invited me to an evening concert near his home . . .?

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which would require me to drive on snow covered country roads in mid-January. This would have been our first meeting.

I declined because I'm uncomfortable about driving the distances late at night - deer jumping across the road, etc.

He seems annoyed. Haven't heard from him since. What's up with the sensitivity of some guys???

Answer 1

Obviously people are not reading your question.  You didn't say he invited you to his house but to a concert NEAR his house.  It sounds to me like he is the type that likes to be in control and does not like rejection.  He probablly was all psyched about meeting you.  If you are interested in him, then tell him you will meet him another time....but still in public.

Answer 2

You dont even know this person and never meet anyone alone this is danger out there young lady read the newspaper and news.

Answer 3

He is not sensitive he is a jerk. I am a 48 yr. old male and would not ask a woman ( or a guy either for that matter ) to drive in conditions they were not comfortable in. If he was really interested in meeting you because he thought you might be compatible for some type of relathionship, frienship or dating whatever he would have understood and you would have heard from him.

Edit: I must disagree with the answer that said he should come to pick you up. If you have not met it would be unwise to let him know where you live. Meeting in public, which was the plan is the smartest way to go for both of you. Heck, you might be the serial killer. There is nothing wrong with meeting someone through the internet so long as you take the same precautions that you always should.

Answer 4

This would have been your first face to face....take this as a sign this is not a safe or good man otherwise he would not be upset that you declined and would have suggested something within your comfort zone and public.

Answer 5

First off if you are planning on meeting him, do so in the day time in your hometown with a group of people in a crowded place.There are too many crazies out there and just because he seems nice online does not mean he is the same once you get to know him.I would hate for you you to be on the 6o'clock news as another statistic. Just be careful, and safe!

Answer 6

I'm glad you did not go AT ALL. Meeting a guy online who you never saw before can be VERY dangerous. He can do somethin' bad to you or who may be good, but it's not worth the risk. Don't care about his sensitivity. Just be glad you did not go.

Answer 7

Bad mistake about meeting people on-line. Good thing you declined to go as you may not have been here to ask this question.

Sounds from your remarks he got upset and annoyed, sure he would, he got turned down and you were the smart girl to do that.

Answer 8

The guys a chump, forget him.

My girlfriend lived about 45 minutes from the city I live in a rural community.  At least half of the drive is through backroads and in the winter it gets tricky.  Your absolutly right, the last thing you want to do is drive somewhere you aren't familiar, at night, in the winter.

Not only do you have to worry about Deer, but I find snowdrifts are the worst.  You have to give it to get through, if you don't your stuck, if you give to much you risk loosing control.

The guy in question has some serious issues.  I wouldn't worry too much about him.

Answer 9

I wouldnt go I mean you dont even know him and hes inviting u into his house

Answer 10

Good for you.If he knows the danger that you have to go thru,he should come and fetch you instead.You are a smart girl.

Answer 11

i think because you ruined his dinner plans..........i think you were going to be dinner,...yep, he was going to feast on your limbs

Answer 12

Don't know each other but invited you over? At Night? And wants you to drive a long distance? alone? Doesn't that tell you anything? He doesn't even seem to care about your safety! honey, his intentions have question marks written all over them!! Plus he got upset and disappeared since? Seems he had bad intentions and when things did not go his way and got angry and he moved probably to an easier victim! You know nothing about him, he could probable be a felon as far as you know! Block him and please be careful when you're online!

Answer 13

take everyones advice and do not go he probably is a pervert dont trust people who want to meet if you'v just met or if they seem keen.

guys on the internet are just pervs most of them.

good thing you cancelled very wise chose   ;)

Answer 14

You crushed the guy's ego.  Poor him.

I think that what you did was reasonable and if didn't understand your reasons, then he wasn't good for you anyways.

Answer 15

Go with your own instinct. If hes not okay with it, chances are  hes not a star.