I met this girl online...?

Question

There's this girl i met online and i really like her. We have been talking for a while now. I have strong feelings for her already even though we havn't met. Nobody can say 'no you havn't' or 'you can't' because i have. Unfortunatly i don't know whether to trust her as she is always on this dating website whenever i log on. I don't know if she's saying the same things to someone else that she is to me. What do think? What shall i do? I'm confused.

Answer 1

hey i have experienced that too but what i did was i just tried to stop my feeling for him...coz i know it will not work not unless we will meet in person...and i guess his not that true to me also coz his always talking about s*x though i am very true to him...i loved hime but he just waited my love....

Answer 2

Not sure i forgot....

Answer 3

well i think being a person of extreame noledge of those sites that you should get tto now her allot and when she is on dont let it bother you but you should be carefull and when your talkin to her ask her to tall you the truth just to make sure but you can never tell over a dating website so yea unless you can actually meet her dont get involved

Answer 4

I think that you should first try to talk to her on the phone, to see how her voice sounds... You can be surprised how much you can learn about a person by just hearing her voice!... Then while your on the phone ask!... say "how do you feel about me?" and then wait for her answer and give her some time to think about it... If she refuses to go out with you then you can say that you gave it a try and be thankful you didnt fall TOO deeply for her... these small crushes are easy to forget when they dont become a big relationship.!!

Hope I helped!

Answer 5

And others are wondering the same thing too! its all a game, of chance. So man up and take a chance! If you have all of these so called feelings for someone you never met! then take a chance, what do you have to loose, nothing but disappointment. Risk and opportunity!  You have the opportunity to meet someone knew to see where it might take you, You run the risk! of being totally let down.  So what's it worth too you?  

Answer 6

NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!! usually the people you meet online aren't trustworthy. she might be really ice, but she might be up to no good.

Answer 7

its not like she is cheating on you or anything..it would be different if you where dating..

Answer 8

I like REAL RELATIONSHIPS.

You can fix them you can break them, you can barried 5 feet underground; you can strech them. You can drop them and star all over again ...  

Answer 9

i think you should talk to her on the phone for a while and plan to meet somewhere...but you should both bring a friend just in case she's like a stalker or you need some backup

hope this helps :)

Answer 10

i understand i dated this dude online to and he was a total jerkk but thats anywhere and everywhere you know. i dont think that there is anything wrong with it. BUT if she is online a lot then you have to take into consideration that she probably is talking to other people she may be you know desperate for a boyfriend. why dont you talk to her about the situation im sure she'll come around.

Answer 11

if you have been talking to her for awhile ask her to meet, and find out if she is really interested, or playing you along, she could be married with 3 kids

Answer 12

This has happened to me too but make sure the website is verified and all that stuff. Most of the time it will work out but u have to be sure that its not some creep online.  

Answer 13

It is possible to find someone on a dating site who is genuine and completely honest. However I think your right to be on your guard. There are so many people on the web who lie about themselves.

Before I used to speak to a guy I had never met & started to develop a crush on him. It turned out he had been lying to me about his age and probably other things..

With a particular person it's really hard to tell if they are for real.. I really hope this girl is *crosses fingers*

If you do ever decided to meet make sure it's a public place just in case the person turns out to be dangerous or anything... Maybe even have a couple of friends on hand in the back round..

Good luck, sorry I can't tell you for sure.

Answer 14

I know exactly what you mean about liking people that u meet online. Not too long ago, I met this amazing guy online and we met, we are teens and i like him a lot. But he's being an ***, so i doubt wer ever going to be more than friends. If shes on that website whenever u log on, maybe shes trying to see if you are on. Cause she wants to know if you are talking to other girls as well as her. Maybe, shes thinking the same thoughts you are. It's higly possible. But I definately think that you should try to meet her in person. But most of all, just confront her, let her know that u are into her. Try to figure out if she is acutally into you. I dont know what she is saying to you, but if she's saying that she likes you, then go for it. You're never going to find out if its right unless you go for it. Goodluck with what ever happens!

Answer 15

try meeting here some where.

Answer 16

I'm sure she already knows, but just let her know again how much you like her and that you just don't say that to anybody.  I doubt she is saying the same things to different people.  Since you guys have not met yet, you two are not officially together in my opinion, so she is still free to date and talk to other people if she wants.  My advice is to just keep talking to her and ask her if she feels the same way about other guys or if it's just you.  You just have to trust her answer.  Best of luck!

Answer 17

That's cute! =]

I say talk to her on the phone or get together to meet each other in person and find out for yourself. Because a person can be different on the phone or the net. You never know.

Answer 18

probably she waits for you, or leave her computer on

Answer 19

meet girls in person... not online

Answer 20

Well I understand having feelings for someone you met on line.  I met be best friend on line and we have been great friends for four years!  However you can't really make any decisions about her until you have formed a real relationship.  It's ok to meet someone on line, but you can't have your whole relationship there.  You need to talk on the phone and meet.  As far as trusting her, you will never know.  I can't say that you should or shouldn't because it is just to hard to discern what someone says in writing.  The best thing you can do is go with your gut!  

Answer 21

If you really like then tell her so, tell her that you want to be serious and meet her...in real life. She may just be talking with other people because you guys aren't "serious" I doubt she's saying the same things that she says to you to anyone one else other than her girlfriends. Chances are she feels just like you and is probably just scared to say so. Meeting someone on line isn't easy, it's a huge leap of faith for both of you. I know exactly what you're going through my boyfriend and i met on line in April of 06' and are still together...living together off line. Off line is way better trust me tell her how you feel!

Answer 22

i think that you should be careful with that whole on-line dating thing anyway. you never know if the girl you like or falling for can be a man using someones picture but anyway i think that you should trust her but don't let your guard down. you can still like her and care for her but just be careful of what risk and choices you take with her.and if she tells you "what you want to hear", because girls can do that, i'd just watch out and don't give yourself all at once.

Answer 23

You need to meet this gal in PERSON.  

On-Line only leaves way too many "T"'s uncrossed, and I's undotted.

You are opening yourself up to heartache and disappointment.

True dating takes meeting the person IN PERSON, and here is why:

In order to find out if there is a match, you need to see the girl in 3-Dementional.  See her, touch her, smell her...putting all of your 5 God-given senses to work for you.  Talking with her and how she responds to you is needed, too.  She may give positive....or she may give negative body language while in your presence.  It's an entirely, yet inadequate dating ball-game when only done electronically.  This goes for dating in the "old days" of letter-writing.  There are just too many 'gaps' when you leave learning about someone so One-dementional.

The gentlemanly thing to do is to travel out to meet her.  Do NOT offer to pay her to come see you.  She needs to be in her "protective, comfort zone" of familiar surroundings when meeting you for the first time.  Ask her help in local hotels in the area, and agree to meet in a neutral area like a sporting event, religious concert, restaurant, movie house.  And, I would suggest also that you take things a little slower because it may take very little to make her back off and seek someone new over the internet.  Take it on her terms, slow, easy, respectable.

It might also be good to meet her family and friends.  That will tell you alot about her character.  It will tell you more than her cute IM's to you over the months.  She may have the habit of being emotion-driven and see you differntly than you think she sees you.  Be smart, let friends and family know if you do embark on meeting her (where, when, & such) to protect yourself, too.

I took the internet dating route.  I never took up any guy on flying out to meet him, no matter how "wonderful" he appeared.  It was the guy who drove out to meet me that got my attention, as I saw that he was more serious about maybe having a relationship.  I met one of those guys....a fellow who came by bus (he was afraid of flying after 9-11), 4 bus changes, 1300 miles, 36 straight hours.

Now, that may not seem as much..getting on a bus.  It seems minor until you realize that he is a paraplegic, wheelchair dependent, and had to travel alone to come out to meet me.  He was mugged 1x, the driver OFTEN forgot he was there for potty and food breaks, had his luggage lost 2x, final luggage stolen the last 'date' trip.  I decided that he didn't belong 1300 miles away, so I packed up his butt and moved him to Texas in 2005.

We married Valentines Day 2007.

Yes, on-line dating is a good start, but it is only a start.  Best get to moving forward with this gal, and get to know her better and in person.  Time to start dating her in the "flesh and blood" mode now.

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