I might be starting a new job.. I`m a bit worried about my daughter.?

Question

She`s 13 this year and it would mean she`s got to get herself to school in the mornings (its only a five minute walk -its a safe area)., I can get her up and give her breakfast before I leave, she`s assured me she is quite capable... what would you do? I`ve tried finding jobs on different (later shifts) but they all want me to start early morning., or not at all.

Answer 1

She'll be fine. A lot of kids her age and younger don't get woken up or have their breakfast given to them or get taken to school - they do it all themselves.

If you are really worried though, you could always ask her to walk with a friend.

Answer 2

She will be fine, especially if it is a 5 minute walk. A 13-year-old is well capable enough to know not to get rides with strangers, wander around on the street without looking for cars, etc. For some peace of mind, give her pepper spray/mace just in case and give her some emergency numbers, like the neighbor's, to call in case she needs help of any sort immediately.

Answer 3

As her mother only you know if she is responsible enough to do this - if you feel she is then trust her and let her do it - if it is that close to the school surely there are some friends that could meet up with her and walk to school with her.

Answer 4

shell be fine dont worry

Answer 5

I do understand your concern, if your daughter is mature for her age & sensible then let her go on her own. She is 13 after all. I have grwn up boys who at the ages of 9 & 11 used to go clothe shopping on their own & we don't live in a very safe area & i'm an anxious mum but you have to make your daughter streetwise & try not to wrap her up in cotton wool for her own sake. Trust her & i think all will be fine. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

At 13, it really is necessary that she start growing up and being responsible for more aspects of her life.  It's good that you two can have breakfast together. Start expecting her to pitch in, like setting the table, making toast while you do eggs, etc.

She should certainly be able to get herself to school on time by her age. She should have been able to do that by age 6 or 7, especially since it is less than a 15-minute walk in a safe area!

If you do not start teaching her to take more responsibility for herself and for helping with the household soon, it will be too late and you will end up with a spoiled, incompetent kid instead of a confident young lady who is preparing to move out into the world and take care of herself, and eventually her own family.

And if you not start expanding her boundaries, you will end up with a resentful and rebellious teen-helion who wants more freedom, but is totally incapable of taking the responsibilities that create freedom, and therefore makes your life h**l.

Answer 7

Hi,

I think it will be fine. She will be prefectly safe. She may be able to meet up with a friend and walk together anyhow.

She is 13 and in 3 years will be leaving high school and maybe in college or embarking on a job herself.

She needs to gain her own independance and this will enable her to do this - you teaching her a big lesson.

I know it is a worry but if you are really worried then buy her a mobile and tell her she should text to let you know she has arrived at school safely but I sure she will be fine.

Good luck in your new job!

Lx

Answer 8

i dont really see what the problem is. yes its natural to worry about your child, we all do but it sounds like you are being a little over protective. when i was 13 (which was only 7years ago) i had to get myself up in the morning, get my bag ready, make myself breakfast, take my baby sister to her childminder, and walk 20mins to school by myself(with friends) if you live in a safe area then what the problem? especially if you can wake her and make her breakfast

Answer 9

5 min walk!! I used to walk 20 mins to school. Ok, so she is still young, but old enough to walk to school on her own, she shouldnt need a chaperone everywhere she goes. That you will see her in the morning is already good news. my mum still frets about me travelling around (im 23) so i guess your worrys will always be there, but seriously, your lucky that her school is so close...

Answer 10

i would wake up earlier , take her myself and leave her there with the cleaning lady or whoever is there early.

Answer 11

She will be fine. Maybe a friend lives near you guys and they will carpool. But yes of course she will be fine.

Answer 12

she should be fine, maybe get her to walk to school witha a friend.