I miss my dad, plz help me!!!!?

Question

I miss my dad so much. I'm 15 right now and i haven't seen my dad for 13 years now. i am so angry and upset with him sometimes because he left when i was so young. i didn't have no dad around me to take care of me or to comfort me when i was in pain.I used to cried every night. i always prayed that i will get to see my dad one day I do hear from him but not all the time. my mom have to like call him and tell him to all me. can you believe that my dad don't even know my birthday. o i'm so p**s right now, i don't know wat to do. i can'tt ell my mom how i feel about my dad. i can't even tell my dad because i am so scared. i just need someone to talk to. I'm like always in tears when i see kids with their dads. I'm always wishing why that couldn't be me and my dad. can someone just give me some advice. just tell me wat to do thats all i want to know.

Answer 1

I know how you feel-- although my dad does still keep in touch, it is not very often. I haven't seen my own father in a few years, and my feelings of attention probably are incomparable to yours. But I still do understand to some extent.

The best advice I can offer is to talk to someone you really trust, that might be a neighbor, a friend or another close relative. Someone you know can have your back. If there's no one you can trust, try writing your feelings down in a diary, or expressing how you feel in a different manner. Such as playing an instrument, writing poems, writing stories, singing, or anything art like. I personally like to write stories or draw/paint pictures based on my feelings. I have come to discover, that when you find a hobby that becomes your passion, and you do it everyday, it's a good way to distract your mind from depressing thoughts.

Besides that, think of what you have accomplished without your father. Although we all face many obstacles, look at how many you have defeated. Look at what you have done on your own, and be proud of yourself. It must have been hard, but it still is rewarding in ways. Remind yourself of how great of a person you are, and have become. If these things don't help, talk to a school counselor, or even TRY to discuss this situation with your mother. You shouldn't be afraid, she is still a guardian.

Answer 2

I know it's hard for you. I have 3 boys and their dad walked out on us 6 years ago. They haven't talked or seen him at all. He doesn't call them of visit them. He doesn't even give them b-day or christmas gifts.  They would cry all the time. One day my dad told them to stop crying and to be strong for me. They don't hurt as much any more. They still have anger for him but it's Their dad that is losing out . Just hang in there , and be strong.

Answer 3

I am like you i am now 21 and cant remember my biological father- he was around for maybe the first year- but thats it! My mother shortly married a man who i now call my father and my 2 sisters.  I am now expecting my first child and i am so close with my mum- i wouldnt want it any other wway!!

I know its hard knowing that there is a part of you out there and who you know nothing about!  At least your father has tried to have some contact with you... But do you know what i think- its their loss if they dont want to know you! And do you really want to know someone who is so selfish and ignorant of their own blood?  Do you have any male family that you could maybe see more of, and do special things with them- like an uncle or grandpa?  

If you can just try and be with your mother, shes been with you since you were born, been through the good times and the bad and she will continue to be there for you.  Just forget about your dad- you dont deserve to live half a life thinking about him!  

I hope i helped even a tiny bit.

Good luck if you ever need to talk just msg me ok

Answer 4

You have got to let you Dad know how you feel. It is his job to be part of you life you deserve no less. Write him a letter telling him exactly how you feel. He is not going to be mad at you maybe at himself and he needs to be if has neglected you. Men get caught up sometimes in their lives they just do not notice when they are being neglectful call him on it and I bet he can do better. Chin up sweetie you are one of a kind. :0) he just does not know how wonderful you really are!