I miss my husband and my life so bad right now!?

Question

god where do i start okay i know this is what happens when u have kids. i have a 5 year old just started school which i so didnt want to happen i missed him being home cuz we got to kick back all day together plus he would play with my 13 month old baby. now hes gone all day. and she hangs on me all the time. im busy with his school. and her. plus shes teething she cries all day. dont get me wrong im not bitching i love her i totally do everything for her. i just feel like what about me sometimes. and my husband i want to spend time with him but our daughter goes to bed soo late and by that time. were dead tired. i really need advice does it ever get better? im 24 and my husband is 37 and i feel like my life is passing me by. he told me its never gonna get better with the baby. i thought it was as they grow. cuz my son is a little easier now hes 5. i miss spending time with my husbad. and sometimes myself all i ask for is just to watch a lil tv sometimes not just spongebob wubbzy. i need advice plzz help

Answer 1

Please please please get yourself some help fast!!!  My wife felt this way and I basically reacted the same way your husband did....I was wrong and so is he....You have control of the situation because you have control of yourself.....get a day a week or at least a night and get a babysitter to take the kids....You and your husband NEED some time to yourselves, to have fun, to communicate to do something....This is so important it was the beginning of the end for my ex and I!!!  Good Luck and PLEASE do not do nothing and allow this resentment to build up inside you!!!

Answer 2

I'm 40-something, and have 2 kids, an 18 year old who's a freshman in college, and a 14 year old who's in 8th grade.  I can tell you from a "been there, done that" standpoint that it DOES get easier once your children are in school.  But as far as your hubby goes, you've got to make the time to spend together.  Hire a babysitter for the kids, and go on dates together.  This is important--your marriage probably depends on it.  My husband and I made it a point when our children were little of going on a weekly date, just the 2 of us.  If you're a stay at home mom, it's even more important, because you need to get out during the day.  The best advise I ever got was to take care of myself.  You have to see yourself as a checking account, and your children and husband are writing checks against the account.  It's up to you to make the deposits.  Do things for YOU, you have to.  You can't just be a mom, you'll go nuts.  Do things that you enjoy, put the baby in a day care program one day a week, it will be good for her.  Get a part time job if you want, volunteer, just do something to get around adults during the day.  And take those weekly dates with your husband.  If you spend time on yourself and on your marriage, you'll be a better mom in the long run.  You'll be a happier wife and mother, and better able to care for your family--trust me, I know!  

Good luck!

Answer 3

This is what happens when you have children....they need attention and tons of it.  As your little girl grows, she will be out of the "terrable two" stage and your son and daughter will be able to play together without your constant attention.You will have more time for yourself and your husband because they will be older and more able to do things without you.  Give it time....it does get better.  

Answer 4

hire a sitter ot let a family member help you out. you could visit whether your parents or his parents.  or you could go out in the park with the kids.. since youve alrdy got a 5 yr old, you just got to tend the little one. dont overtire or overbore yourself. good luck!

Answer 5

there is time for everything.. ur husband is right things will get better.. mean while u can ask a family memeber to babysit ur kids for a few hrs .. plan a romantic dinner.. go out ..  all that can be arranged.. dont feel bad for missing the time u used to spend..with ur husband.. but remember what makes a happy family is all of the together.. good luck