I miss my little girl?

Question

ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE RECENTLY SPLIT UP AND WE HAVE A 3 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WE HAD TO SEE A FAMILY LAWYER TO DECIDE WHO LOOKS AFTER HER IT WAS DECIDED MATT AND HIS GIRLFRIEND ARE TO PICK HER UP FROM NURSERY ON FRIDAY LOOK AFTER HER OVER THE WEEKEND AND DROP HER OFF ON SUNDAY AS SHE HAS NURSURY THROUGH THE WEEK I HARDLY SEE HER MY CURRENT BOYFRIEND SAYS IM BEING SILLY BUT I MISS MY LITTLE GIRL SO MUCH AND I WORRY ABOUT HER WHEN SHE IS AWAY IF ANYONE HAS ANY ADVICE OR PERSONAL FEELINGS PLEASE HELP ME

Answer 1

i am really sorry this happened, but think about it in the long run. if your daughter is missing out on her fathers influence, she will have a really tough time growing up and being around guys. she will not know how to react to boyfriends, and will not know how to love her future husband. just be thankful that he wants to be part of her life, because it could be much worse. he could have wanted nothing to do with her and she would be really emotionally screwed up. i know you miss her, but that will make you appreciate your time with her more and be a better mom because of it. good luck and remember how important her father is to her well-being.

Answer 2

You're not being silly.  It's got to be hard.  It will get easier w/ time.  You will get used to these weekends.  If weekends are the only time you have off and can do fun things w/ her though, could you arrange it so he has her every other weekend and the weekends he doesn't get her he can have her a couple days during the week?

You don't want her to miss out on time w/ her daddy, that's for sure.  Also, being a single mom is draining.  Down the road, you may find it's better when you two are able to get time away from eachother.  You will need a break.  Call her when you miss her.  Work w/ her dad as much as you can to be good co-parents.

Answer 3

its ok its like this but maybe you can go back to court for them or work it out with your ex

Answer 4

sorry, the all caps made me automatically not read this.

Answer 5

well you wouldnt be mom if you didnt miss her and its hard especially since you had to go to a lawyer and have this decided so its ok to feel like you are worried being without her and missing her and he should know better

Answer 6

It's normal to feel that way, i also miss my little girl, when her dad has her. I worry about her to. That's your motherly instinct kicking in. Don't worry, unless you really have to. IF she has done this for a while, and she comes back unharmed, you know shes getting taking care of good. Maybe not as ggod as her mother takes care of her. BUT REMEMBER SHE LOVES YOU! She's not going to forget you, your her mother, and you take care of her.

Answer 7

learn to live with it.. if the ex is a good dad, no matter what happened betweened you and him, its completely unfair to take his rights as a dad away.. there is nothing you can do to have both except get back together and stay together but apparently you've both moved on

Answer 8

Missing your child just means that you are a good mommy!

As a student/working mom. During the week I spend about three hours a day Monday to Friday but all day on the weekend. It tears at my heartstrings sometimes but I know that my son is a well adjusted kid and loves daycare and as an only child really enjoys being around other kids. Although I have little time with him during the week, I make sure that the time we have is well spent and try to make the most of it.

If your childcare/work arrangements give you a little free time then use it to do something that you can't do with DD around but really enjoy.

Answer 9

awww. call the person who has her and ask to say hello.

Answer 10

It will be alright.She needs to spend sometime with her father also.Maybe you should spend more time with your boyfriend to try and keep your mind on other things for the weekends she is not there.

Answer 11

adopt..help a kid who doesnt have a parent.