I moved and i met this girl...?

Question

I met this girl she a really bad influence on me though i am in middle school and so is she she dates 20 year old guys and has s*x and stuff like that.she tells me not to be friends with some people and talks about them and it gets annoying and all she EVER wants to do is hang out with my neighbors in high school (who are both guys and 1 almost did it with her in front of me in her moms bed and he flirts with me)( i just ignore when he flirts with me because i don't even date guys in my age group yet...) and everyone at school is giving me a lot of attention because I'm nice and intelligent and beautiful , and shes always telling me do NOt talk to her there mean and I'm thinking of ditching her for all my other friends what should i do ??/ because on one hand she needs me to help her stop what shes doing ,s*x,cigarettes etc.should i stay or should i go!

Answer 1

Hey hunn,

You're obviously a nice girl with a lot of potential.

So, do what feels right. Would you rather have tons of nice , decent friends who care for you and think your a great person.

Or some low life burn out who makes your decisions for you?

Who do YOU want to be?

Its all up to you.

Just ask yourself those questions and think about it.

Burnout, who will probably end up with no job, no house, about 4 kids, and no husband/boyfriend to support you.

Or

A beautiful smart successful women, with a great life, Nice house.. Loving husband and adorable kids.

Its your life.

Answer 2

just pretend she doesn't exist

Answer 3

Yeah she isn;t a very good person.  You have to watch out with who you wannna be friends with,

Answer 4

Leave! If you stick around with her, you will no longer have attention because you're "nice, intelligent, and beautiful"...once people realize your hanging out with her you will only get negative attention and people will think your doing the same things she does. And I highly doubt you will get her to stop doing the things she does... you will probably start doing them too if you hang out with her any longer! get some decent friends..

Answer 5

Hmmm.  She doesn't "need" you -- she sounds very controlling and you need to feel like you are saving somebody, you feel you need to be somebody's hero.  Wouldn't be surprised if you even had a crush on her or needed her in your life to feel superior.  It's not your place to "save" anybody or "fix" someone else's life.  Deal with your own, honey.  The fact that you went back to put an additional protest in your post tells me that indeed, you need her in your life to feel superior.  Take care of yourself and if you really really feel your friend's life is in danger, then you need to report her to the authorities.  The authorities have the power to help, not you.  Yet you sit here and protest too much.  You're the good girl, she's the bad girl, she "needs" you.  Yeah right.  Something about this girl attracts you and you need to address that issue within yourself and fix it instead of trying to fix somebody else.

If you really truly have other friends as you say, then you should hang out with them more and report this girl to the authorities -- because consensual s*x or not, she is underage and having s*x with older men and those men are committing a crime.

Answer 6

She doesn't NEED YOU to help her stop doing anything! Only she has control over that.

You already know she's a  bad influence, why stay? She'll blame you when she gets in trouble for stuff, she'll let mr. flirty rape you and swear you asked for it. Is that the type of person you want to call friend? She's jealous because you're smart, by the time she hits high school she's gonna look like she's in her 20's because she uses her body to get what she wants. It takes a serious toll on your body.

Do not let her control you in telling you who you can and can not talk to. Altho you're very smart that makes her feel as tho she's superior to you. You tell her you don't approve of her behavior, you say I know you can be a better person than that, and until you change to become that better person I can not be around you or talk with you. Then you calmly walk away. Let her cuss you out and call you what ever she wants to. Don't turn around....just keep walking~  

Answer 7

LEAVE!!!

She is a bad influence!

Answer 8

Please run far away. As strong and smart and pretty as you are you probably know that you need to focus on you and your school work, not 'helping' someone who is blatantly trying to pull you down to her level.

If you want to get her help tell a grown up. Tell a few. A teacher, your parents, hers...

When I started high school I was like you, then I got friends like her and  it took me down a dark path that I'm still trying to fix. I've been to college and I'm good again, but people still remember me as a bad seed and stay away. Even 10 years later...