I moved to another country to be with my fiancee. He cheated. Do I give back the ring?

Question

My former boyfriend of 6 years proposed to me in May 2007. I moved to another country in Sept. 2007 to be with him. I was jobless for 7 months b/c I was waiting on my immigration status. He started to have doubts around February and called the wedding off. He asked me to stay there because he loved me and wanted to work this out (meanwhile, my immigration papers were still processing).

My immigration status was approved in July and I had to fed-ex my passport so they could issue me my visa. The very next eveining after I fed-exed my passport he deceided to sleep out b/c he had too much to drink! He came in the next morning and casually kissed me... snowed me, etc. I sensed that something was off... I asked him, he said nothing happened. Asked again 3 hours later.... nothing happened. Asked again in the late afternoon.... voila!!!! I ****** up again he says.

In case your wondering what "I ****** up again" means. He cheated on me years before and I left him for that. He never learned

Answer 1

well i can tell you this u should think about it yourself u cant get yahoo answers take one of the most important desicions of you life?

BTW what country are you speaking of?

Answer 2

honeslty i recently did this to my ex, and she hired a hitman to kill me, im still actually on the run, do the same itll teach the scumbag a lesson

Answer 3

NO, just the heave ho

Answer 4

Call the embassy/consulate of whatever country you are speaking of, or visit their web page. It is not clear if you are actually in the USA or else, and where are you from.

Usually on this cases, you should come back to your country of residence since the original reason of your visa no longer exists and therefor you should start a different process, therefor it should be started in your country of residence (if you are still interested in residing on the destination country).

Answer 5

No, sell the ring on eBay when you get back home

Answer 6

The ring is a promise of marriage and if there is no marriage, it should be given back.

Answer 7

I had a similar situation happen to me. The only difference was that I didn't move all the way out of the country (just half way across it). I brought myself home and I sold the ring in order to buy myself couseling. I decided that I had to take responsibilty for the fact that I stayed with the idiot for so long when all of the signs were there. Get some counseling so that this does not happen to you again. If he tells you to give him the ring back just tell him you will give it back when a time machine is invented that will take his sorry a** back to the past to erase each time he has cheated on you. Then when he apologizes tell him to call his hoe and feed her his bulls**t because you are done hearing it.

Answer 8

well to make sure he don't get that sperm anywhere except with you.. let the hostpital hold some for you when you want a baby, and GET HIM A VESECTIMY then he can't shoot.. or cut off half his foot so he can't run...and give hima choice between his D** or foot..

Answer 9

No, the ring was a gift to you and is yours.  Sell it for a ticket home.

Answer 10

Looks to me like your the one who's never learned.

p.s keep the ring.

Answer 11

Keep the ring, legally it was a gift - it is now your property. There have been court cases about this type of thing. If you like, sell it on this site: http://www.exboyfriendjewelry.com/

Or have it made into a pendant, something that you will like.

Sorry you had to go through this, but be happy you are smart enough to not marry this guy. Much worse if you have a child etc...and then he pulls this type of cr*p.

Good for you by the way - glad you didn't fall for his BS.

Answer 12

You seem to be getting some strange answers.Probably because some people are not reading your question.

The usual custom is that if you break of the engagement, you return the ring. If he breaks it off,you keep the ring.It is only a custom, and personal circumstances can affect it.It does not take into account your particular situation, which is abnormal, because you are not two people living in the country where you both originate.It is nothing to do with what is legal or not legal. There is no law about engagement rings.

There is another factor.If he took you to another country,and you want to reurn home, he should be paying for that.If he is not, then even if it was you that broke off, you would still be entitled to defray the cost of your expenses,against the value of the ring, so in those circumstances keep it and sell it!

Sitram.

You should keep quiet about things you know nothing about, especially when you can't read the question properly.It is about a ring, not residence status. The lady already has permission to stay in that country if she wants, and if she does not want, she can return home. It is her choice. She does not have to go back anywhere and start again. That is ridiculous.

Stick to what you know.

Computergeek836.

Are you high on something ,because you sure are writing crazy. What does anything you have written have to do with a ladies engagement ring? Are you even on ther right forum?

Answer 13

Hummmm,you should sell the ring to pay for STD tests.