I need EX advice please!?

Question

Here's the deal :

I have a friend name Gage, and we went out for about a week, but I chose to end it, because we would be better off as friends. He took the break up extremely badly-and said some hurtful, and uncalled for things. We were friends before this for about a year-and I never knew he could be that cruel-esspecially since I was trying to be mutual and gentle about it-but he proceeded to send nasty texts, and deleted me from things like myspace and facebook.

Anyway, his birthday is on Saturday. I JUST went out to get his gift-even though he has been disrespectful. I would just really like it if we were to become friends-or even civil with eachother again. I got him simple choclates, and one of those little charecters that light up when you play music. Along with the card-I'm going to write in how I want this to be a peace offering, and my apologies.

Should I give the gift to him tomorrow at school? I would very much like to be friends agian-we sit next to eachother in half of our classes too. But I'm afraid he'll reject the gift or i wouldn't be a good idea.

So PLEASE tell me your thoughts!

Answer 1

I think this boy has much stronger feelings for you than you do for him. If you have been friends for a year, what made you date for a week. I guess it is good that you figured out immediately that this was not a good idea, and to just be friends. He feels hurt, probably embarrassed, and sad. This happens very often when friends decide to take the dating plunge. It is just so awkward if it ends up badly, as your situation has.

Go with your gut on the gift. See what his mood is before you make your decision of whether to give it to him or not. Your feelings will be hurt if he rejects it.

Good luck. I hope things work out for the best.

Answer 2

All you can do is try.

I commend you on trying to settle things even though he is being the lower person in all of this. If he rejects the gifts, well, I guess you have you some good sweets, and cute new toy. LOL!

Answer 3

It may be that he wanted to be more than friends for quite awhile.  When you guys finally got together and split so quickly, he was probably crushed.  It may take him time to come around... or he may never.  I think it's a thoughtful thing to have gotten him a gift and if you really want, you should go ahead and give it to him.  He may not react like you want, but at least you'll know you tried.  If he's upset by it or doesn't accept it, just back off for awhile.

Answer 4

Getting hurt tends to bring out the worst in people. He probably feels like you were playing with his emotions (going out with him for a week and then breaking it off). Not that young relationships need to last forever, but I think there was some immaturity on your part as well. You clearly went out with him and/or broke up with him purely based on fickle emotions. I'm not trying to come down hard on you, I'm just explaining the other side of it to you.

In my opinion, giving a gift is not a good way to make a peace offering. Instead, I would call him up or talk to him privately face-to-face if you have the opportunity and apologize and see what happens from there.

Answer 5

I think that if you want to give it to him as a peace offering go for it, just know that there is 50%  chance that he will turn away from you, but there is also 50% chance that you guys could continue your friendship. He needs time to get over it. Eventually it will die down. Maybe this might make it die down faster. I would give it to him. Good luck.

Answer 6

While you're trying to be gracious and mature about the whole situation, he is not.  In all likelihood, he'll brush your gift off and act rude.  I wouldn't give it to him.  I'd just wish him happy birthday.  He should be thankful you even remembered!