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Question

i have an 8 year old girl and currently 8 mths preggo.my 8 year old lies about everything.she eats all the time (way more than me) and when i tell her no she can't have something she will go and steal it out of the kitchen anyway.i also have to fuss at her everyday just so she will clean up behind her self or take care of her hygeines.I need advice or suggestions on what i can do because i am really stressed out because of her.

Answer 1

Don't keep junk food in the kitchen.  She can only eat what's in there.  Keep healthy snacks in there instead.

Answer 2

I'm just speculating here, but it sounds like you don't have a father figure for the little girl.

In this case, you need to be much more firm. If she isn't taught what is right and wrong or what she can/can't have then she will grow up and never change here childish behaviour, you will live with the stress forever.

Sort it out now. Make CLEAR boundries that have SERIOUS reprocussions when broken. For example, create a naughty step and tell her every time she does something wrong she will spend time on the naughty step. Use a suitable amount of time for a suitable crime!

She will not like this idea and will do as much as she can to get out. Cry, scream, shout possibly even hit. You just need to be very firm and pay her no attention if she has been bad. Just calmly take her to her naughty step WITHOUT CONVERSATION OR AFFECTION! This is vital for the growth of your child. She is in control but you need to take the control back.

This will be hard, but persevere, you must be strong!

Answer 3

Your eight your old sounds just like any other eight year old!  But, the lieing part is not good and the stealing part is not good either.  You need to be really patient with her and talk things out.  Explain why you are concerned with her eating and make a deal with her about her food.  Let her make some choices- you could make a chart and put it on the fridge, about what foods you want her to eat and at what time, and let her choose also- so that you both can be happy.  You need to talk to her about the lieing and stealing.  She is doing it, b/c she feels that she can,  and that might feel like she is being controlled.  Explain to her why lieing is not good and that it's imp. that you are able to trust one another.  Be very patient with her, and when she steals or lies, patiently explain to her why it's not good.  Also, tell her that if you catch her doing either, she will have to sit in time out for 1/2 hour.  The key is patience, discussing, and keeping your voice loving.  My daughter who is 9, loves to eat also.  But, I figured out that she went thru a major growth spurt.  She needed all of that food.  I just always try and have fruit and veggies out for her.  If she wants the fattening stuff, we have to make a deal.  Also, don't keep the junk in her reach.......Good luck with your new baby!

Answer 4

be firm with her. let her know it is wrong and if it keeps happening then you should emplement some type of disipline. a time out , put into the corner or take away some privelage. but you have to be able to enforce your rules or they are pointless. be repetative if you have to, if she gets up from time out put her back. remember you are the adult and you are in control.keep putting her back to time out until she stays there. all you need is 5 to 10 minutes for the time out it can be a bit longer but don't be too potent with the punishment so to speak. once she is done with time out show her that you love her and let her know that she is expected to follow your rules or there will be a consequence.

Answer 5

my 9 year old sisters the same way! honestly shes a brat beacuse my parents let her have everything she wants, dont spoil her so much!!!  ground her when she doesnt listen!

Answer 6

Your child has learned how to relegate you to the position of 'child'.  She is now the boss in your relationship.

You must take control of her.  

Do this by monitoring her.  When you tell her "no", mean it and then hand out punishment when she disobeys.

She is NOT too old for a spanking and that is exactly what I suggest to get her attention.  It may take more than one time but you must be firm.

Don't forget to hand out love too, usually right after a spanking.  That way, she does not come to the conclusion that you don't love her.

She is only 8 years old but she has become the 'adult'.  You must reverse these roles very quickly.

Be aware that there will be MUCH crying and howling involved but you must tolerate and not give in.

That is the only chance for you and your child.

Answer 7

ummm i think u should talk to her nicely

or maybe promise her if she listen to you, you will give her something

Answer 8

i'm only 17 and not a mother but i see this all the time with my aunts kids. they over eat a lot and their hygene is horrendous, they listen better to me than to their own mother.  i think you're just not being firm enough, the reason could be that your daughter knows that she'll get away with it.  when you punish her be firm and dont give in, send her to her room or something, i'm a believer in spanking because it worked with me and my little brother. but if your uncomfortable with physical punishment then try taking her favorite things away. keep in mind that if this behavior keeps up and isnt dealt with, her teenage years will be your living h**l and she my become over weight and unhealthy.

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Answer 10

BUY HEATHY FOOD AND LOCK UP CABINENTS

Answer 11

I think if she lies you should put chillies in her mouth and dont give her water until she says sorry.Get her on a healty diet and if she dont want to eat then leave her hungry.Lock the kitten and put the key where she cant find it.Leave her room untidy no matter how many days and the stuff she lieves around just trow it in her room she will get soo sick of a untidy room she will go clean it herself and start to pick up where she dirtyed.As for her hygiene lock her in the bathroom if that dosent work then I have no more suggestions.Also try to eliminate all sourses of fun until she listens.Speak to her kindly if she dose not listen the first two times its time to get out a wooden spoon or a stern voice.But dont go too far that she will want to run away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

Sounds like she needs attention or some one to play with, take to a play date or go to the park with her, she obviously has a Lot of energy and the eating thing, could be something is bothering her or she is sad about some thing and tries to make herself feel better with food. I used to do that. Just encourage her and try to be as loving as possible but don't let her walk all over you. Find her a hobby, dancing, singing, an instrument, art, sports, something to make her feel good about herself and remember to be supportive and praise the good things she does and don't be hung up on the bad.

Answer 13

Put a lock on the fridge and the cabinets so she can't go get it herself. Make a chart of everything she is supposed to do - brush her teeth, clean her room, etc and every time she does it she gets a star. When she gets a certain number of stars she can watch TV or stay up a little late on a weekend night or have a Friend over.

Biggest thing is to be consistent and stick with it.

Answer 14

Your child neds to learn who's boss. Be stern with her. Her behaviour is common, just time will solve it, as long as your stern with her.

Answer 15

She sounds stressed out. When most people are upset about something they eat all the time, they stop worrying about there hygiene (because what ever is worrying them is more important) and they lie to cover the fact that they are stressed and something is bothering them. Talk to her, she may feel like the new baby means she will be casted aside, and the closer you get to the due date the closer she is to losing you. Try having mother daughter outing's that don't include getting stuff for the baby, or talking about the baby. At least once a week sit down and play a game with her and bound with her, that way even when the baby does come she doesn't feel invisible.

Answer 16

Hey, you are the parent so put your foot down and teach her that u are the boss of her!

Answer 17

Try positive re-enforcement. Don't yell or lose your temper with her. When she does something wrong simply make her go to her room or time out. If she comes out calmly tell her or carry her back until she is better. Now the key is to give her lots of attention for positive things. Children should receive more positive attention than negative. She may be uneasy about the new baby and wants the extra attention. Good luck!

Answer 18

You need to be strict, firm, and consistent. When she does what she shouldn't put her in her room. Give her a few minutes than go in and talk to her. If she is throwing a fit or refuses to talk to you you need to tell her she can just stay there until she is ready to behave and talk with you. Consistency and following through with a punishment is the best way to go. Giving in just proves to her all she has to do is wait long enough and she knows you will give up. Start giving her portion sizes. Maybe put only the healthy stuff or stuff she normally wouldn't eat within easy reach and anything not so good for her put up high or hide. If she insists on eating it may as well be something healthy. I hope this helps you some. Good luck to you.

Answer 19

Sounds like she is entering puberty as well as "baby anxiety".  She probably feels as if the baby is going to replace her in your heart.  You need to start spending more quality time with her and help her to learn how to welcome the new baby when it arrives.  Include her in the preparations for the baby, picking out a crib, diapers, clothing.